The First Phase To Turning Your Marriage Around
04/25/23 • 32 min
The first step to healing your marriage is probably not the first thing that would come to mind when you're unhappy in your marriage.
The first place most people turn when unhappy in their marriage is their spouse.
They tell their spouse they're unhappy; usually, the spouse is not surprised because they're not happy either, and they need to see a counselor.
Not an entirely bad idea, but usually, that means that the problem they are trying to solve is within their spouse.
This will NOT end well.
Trying to get your spouse to change is a solution that will never last; that's why in AwakenYou, we start with ourselves.
This is the easiest way to start because we get to work on ourselves without trying to drag our spouses along.
It's the most effective way to start because your spouse will see the change and growth you are experiencing, and it will impact how they interact with you...in a way that will get you precisely what you've been wanting.
This week in AwakenYou in your marriage, Episode 115: The First Phase To Turning Your Marriage Around, I share how you can begin to feel better in your marriage without dragging your spouse into a therapist's office.
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!
Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.
More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/
Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings.
Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here.
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The first step to healing your marriage is probably not the first thing that would come to mind when you're unhappy in your marriage.
The first place most people turn when unhappy in their marriage is their spouse.
They tell their spouse they're unhappy; usually, the spouse is not surprised because they're not happy either, and they need to see a counselor.
Not an entirely bad idea, but usually, that means that the problem they are trying to solve is within their spouse.
This will NOT end well.
Trying to get your spouse to change is a solution that will never last; that's why in AwakenYou, we start with ourselves.
This is the easiest way to start because we get to work on ourselves without trying to drag our spouses along.
It's the most effective way to start because your spouse will see the change and growth you are experiencing, and it will impact how they interact with you...in a way that will get you precisely what you've been wanting.
This week in AwakenYou in your marriage, Episode 115: The First Phase To Turning Your Marriage Around, I share how you can begin to feel better in your marriage without dragging your spouse into a therapist's office.
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!
Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.
More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/
Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings.
Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here.
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How To Start Feeling Better In Your Marriage
If you are unhappy and unsatisfied with your marriage, this week, I will help you start the process to start feeling happier and more satisfied.
This week is a shortie with a powerful punch.
It is the foundation of everything I do to help my clients create the marriage they crave.
When you realize how much power you have to turn your marriage around, you will be unstoppable when committing to this practice.
AwakenYou in your marriage, Episode 114: How To Start Feeling Better About Your Marriage, talks about the first tool I used to start feeling better.
Even Better?
Jeff didn't realize I had a secret weapon to getting what I wanted from our marriage.
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!
Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.
More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/
Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings.
Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here.
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Building a Strong Foundation: 7 Pillars for a Balanced Support System with Your Spouse
When people think about building a balanced support system with their spouse when they've been married for years without one, you can imagine they're not all fired up about the idea of digging in.
It does sound a bit exhausting.
But what's your alternative?
Continuing on the way things are?
How about divvying up all of your things and moving on? Our brains will tell us this would be much easier, and maybe that is the answer you choose, but trust me, having been through divorce and having coached many others through the process, it's not any easier than doing the work of cleaning up what you've already got.
This week I take a relationship concept for our friendships from Rober Waldinger and Marc Schulz's book The Good Life and apply it to our intimate relationship.
In the episode, I share the following:
- What I'm calling the 7 Intimate Relationship Pillars
- How to start the process of tackling each of these areas so you can start re-building your intimate relationship
- Teach you how to implement a plan to stay consistent and create success
This week in AwakenYou in your marriage, Episode 116: Building a Strong Foundation: 7 Pillars for a Balanced Support System with Your Spouse, I share a simple and implementable process that will have you feeling rejuvenated about how to approach re-connecting with your spouse.
CBS News Interview: 6 Tips For A Healthy & Loving Relationship
Unlock deeper connection in your marriage with my free guide, Daily Prompts for Deeper Connection with Your Spouse—get it now!
Start feeling more connected and loved in your marriage today with my free Reclaim More Love in Just 3 Days process. This process will have you learning how to shift your focus, in a healthy way, and nurture thoughts that build connection and transform how you feel about your marriage.
More resources and how you can start the process of Awakening(YourTrue)You and being the partner who creates your best version of what marriage looks like for you: https://christinebongiovanni.com/
Join my AwakenYou newsletter for weekly marriage tips and early announcements of upcoming offerings.
Book your free Courageous Love Conversation here.
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