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Ask Christopher West

Theology of the Body Institute

Since the early 90's, author and speaker Christopher West has devoted his life to spreading John Paul II's revolutionary teaching on human life, love, and sexuality: The Theology of the Body. His beloved wife Wendy, mother of their five children, has served as his confidante, friend, and support through these long years of ministry. In this podcast, Christopher and Wendy combine their wisdom to tackle the toughest questions dealing with vocation, sexuality, marriage, and the Catholic faith. Support the mission of Christopher and Theology of the Body Institute by becoming a Patron! Join our Patron Community at TOBPatron.com (http://tobpatron.com/).
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06/29/20 • 35 min

How do I help my sister who feels she is pansexual and struggles with suicidal thoughts? Is it wrong to marvel at the beauty of someone's sexuality? Does sickness in the body relate to anything spiritually?

Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body.

Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron!


Q1: I learned a few months ago that my younger sister has contemplated suicide. Today, I accidentally found a letter she wrote to our mom saying she believes she is pansexual. I feel like she's confusing the friendship love she has for her best friend who is a girl with romantic love. In her letter she used phrases like, "It's not the gender/sex that makes me attracted to someone, but who they are as a person," and other phrases that sound like things I've heard on the internet. I feel like she's choosing to put this label on herself because it's what she's being told to label herself as. She's only fourteen. I'm scared for her and don't know how to help her through this.

Q2: Thank you so much for entering into the pain of the human heart with everyone who God. places before youu on the podcast. I've been loving your podcasts because they've been teaching me just how much my creator loves me. It's also inpiring how receptive you are to each other's love! And now, the topic at hand: I used to have scrupals and I thought that thinking about sexuality was wrong. But more recently I've been wondering if maybe there is a time to marvel at the beauty of a person's sexuality. So my question is, is it always wrong to think about a person's sexuality? How do I marvel at the body's beauty?

Q3: Does sickness in the body relate to anything spiritually?

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Resources mentioned this week:

Theology of the Body I: Head & Heart Immersion Course (Online)

Professor of Rock - Neil Diamond


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Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals.

Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

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06/29/20 • 35 min

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06/22/20 • 35 min

How do I understand the part of the Litany of Humility that says "from the desire of being loved, deliver me, O Jesus"? Aren't we made for love? How was your experience homeschooling your children?

Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body.

Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron!


Q1: I recently came across the litany of humility and I'm wondering how to reconcile this line: "from the desire of being loved, deliver me O Jesus" with marriage. My understanding is that the love of God is sufficient; however, if marriage is a reflection of the love marriage we will have with God in heaven, shouldn't we desire our spouses to love us? Also we were created to love and be loved. Therefore, why should I pray not to desire love when that's precisely what I was created for.

Q2: How was your experience homeschooling? I'm very interested in this for my future family and my boyfriend had a great experience with homeschooling when he was younger.

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Resources mentioned this week:

TOB Institute Virtual Conference en Español


Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram.
Discover the Theology of the Body Institute.


If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening!


Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals.

Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Produced by Sounder and Key.

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06/22/20 • 35 min

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06/15/20 • 40 min

How do I forgive my perpetually dysfunctional family? What do you think about the Latin Mass? How do I understand the part of the Litany of Humility that says "from the desire of being loved, deliver me, O Jesus"? Aren't we made for love?

Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body.

Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron!


Q1: My question is about forgiveness. I live in a family with 5 adult kids and there are many dysfunctional patterns of expressing emotion and dealing with conflict. Many of my family members, myself included, have a difficult time forgiving. I know as Catholics, we are called to forgive the way Jesus forgave us; but I don't understand the difference between forgiveness and living in dysfunction. I feel that the dysfunction has to be solved before I can say, "I forgive you" and let things go; but that often leads to holding grudges and resentment, often for days on end. I don't know how to forgive while still addressing dysfunctional dynamics and not becoming a door mat.

Q2: I wanted to know your thoughts on the Traditional Latin mass? Do you believe it was necessary to change the mass in Vatican II? I believe so much of TOB aligns with the traditional Latin mass. I’m drawn to it and the reverence of it, what do you think and have you ever gone to the Latin mass regularly? Thank you for all you do!

Q3: I recently came across the Litany of Humility and I am wondering about how to reconcile this line “from the desire of being loved, deliver me, O Jesus” with marriage. My understanding is that the love of God is sufficient; however, if a marriage is a reflection of the marriage we will have with God in heaven (hopefully), then shouldn’t we desire our spouse to love us? Also, we were created to love and be loved; therefore, why should I pray to not desire love when that’s precisely what I was created for? Only God’s love?

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Resources mentioned this week:

The Chosen TV Series

The Catholic Marriage Summit 2020

Love is Patient but I'm Not by Christopher West

Spirit of the Liturgy by Cardinal Ratzinger

TOB Institute Virtual Conference en Español

TOB Institute Virtual Conference - Premium Pass

Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram.
Discover the Theology of the Body Institute.


If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening!


Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals.

Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Produced by Sounder and Key.

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06/15/20 • 40 min

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The Cookie Analogy | ACW75

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06/08/20 • 29 min

My wife works for Planned Parenthood; how do I talk to her about this? Is it possible to get too "into" books, movies, and music? How did the Fall happen if we already experienced the supreme love of God?

Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body.

Want to support Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron!


Q1: My wife works for Planned Parenthood. I keep telling her to quit her job because it's the worst place on the planet to work. How do I handle this?

Q2: I've been a follower of this podcast and many of Christopher's talks for a while now, and one aspect I've appreciated is your appreciation for movies and songs, even ones that are pop culture or not seemingly religious at face value. I, too, find myself drawn into certain songs or movies, and feel deep emotions toward them. However, I have noticed that I can be almost too engrossed in a compelling book or movie, particularly series such as Harry Potter or The Hunger Games, in which I feel a connection with the characters and their story, and feel almost devastated when the series is over. I have to remind myself that these fantasy series aren't real. What insight do you have regarding my attachment to these stories?

Q3: Hello Christopher & Wendy! I'm reading "TOB for Beginners", but I'm very confused about something. You write, "Before sin, the human heart conformed totally to God's will," and "In the beginning, man and woman were infused with grace; they were drunk on God's wine." I don't understand how we could have distrusted God's love for us when it seems we already had "the cookie" in our hands. Hoping you can shed some light! Thank you immensely for your ministry.

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Resources mentioned this week:

Catholic Marriage Summit - June 11-13 - Featuring Christopher and Wendy West

VIrtual Eucharistic Conference - June 12-14 - Featuring Christopher West

TOB Spanish Virtual Conference - June 26-28 - Featuring Christopher West

Theology of the Body for Beginners book

Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram.

Discover Theology of the Body Institute.


If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening!


Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals.

Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Produced by Sounder and Key.

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06/08/20 • 29 min

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A Beautiful Challenge | ACW74

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06/01/20 • 37 min

Are humans fundamentally "not good"? My husband needs to be intimate to feel close, and I need to feel close to be intimate. How do we resolve this disparity in our marriage?

Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body.

Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron!


Q1: Recently I attended a Lutheran Free service with my parents. Their pastor, a very scholarly man who knows his Bible well, mentioned 3-4 times in his sermon that after the fall God sees us as 'not good'. How can I explain the Truth (Catholic teaching) to him in love?

Q2: My husband often needs to BE intimate to feel close, where I need to FEEL close to be intimate. The way we express and receive our love is just different. But for me, I am on guard about "always to love never to use" almost to a fault. I'm hesitant to give myself until we FEEL close (and I know that would be ideal), but with young kids we just don't realistically always have the time or energy to reach that point emotionally, and so therefore seldom reach the ability to be intimate physically either.

How can I shift my mindset to be open to intimacy even when I may not FEEL it, knowing that it ultimately is a way I AM showing my husband love in the way he can receive it? I don't want to be afraid that the act is somehow "letting myself be used" just because I may not 100% emotionally FEEL it in the moment. (Worth noting, my husband is also very on guard to "never use" so it's not like he is demanding sex, it just is his love language. )

Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com.


Resources mentioned this week:

TOB Institute Courses - Including October's course centering on Mary


Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram.
Discover the Theology of the Body Institute.


If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening!


Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals.

Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Produced by Sounder and Key.

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06/01/20 • 37 min

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Fertility in Suffering | ACW73

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05/25/20 • 37 min

What is the difference between attraction and lust? My friend is considering using IVF to try to conceive. How can I help her? My son is going through marriage prep and has asked me for reading recommendations. What do you recommend?

Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body.

Check out all the great content of our [online conference](tobvirtualconference.com).

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Q1: I was recently reading a novel written from a Christian perspective with Christian characters. One of the characters mentions that his growing attraction for the girl "had only started with lust." This line was jarring to me and brought to my attention that many Christians have a mistaken idea that any attraction that is not immediately and obviously spousal must be sinful.

Q2: I'm writing because I found out my best friend (who is Catholic, mind you) is planning on turning to IVF after years of trying to conceive. She has had several miscarriages as well. What can I say to her that will encourage her that IVF is not the answer to the future full of hope that she is seeking?

Q3: My son is getting married in the fall. Both he and his fiance are Catholic. He recently asked me if I had any reading recommendations to supplement his marriage prep. I am looking at several of your books and looking for your guidance. I'm considering "Good News About Sex and Marriage" or "Theology of the Body for Beginners". Thoughts?

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Resources mentioned this week:

TOB Virtual Conference - Premium passes are still available, also check our our offerings in Spanish.

Into the Deep Retreats

Catholic Marriage Summit

The Good News about Sex and Marriage

Books by Greg and Lisa Popcak


Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram.
Discover the Theology of the Body Institute.


If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening!


Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals.

Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Produced by Sounder and Key.

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05/25/20 • 37 min

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Becoming Saintly | ACW72

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05/18/20 • 39 min

I want to practice the spiritual disciplines of the saints and mystics, but they get in the way of my being a joyful wife and mother. How do I achieve balance here? I take pride in working out, but how do I keep this from straying into vanity?

Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body.

Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron!


Q1: For years, I have studied mystical theology and put what I have learned into practice, longing for Union with God. He is so good; I do not doubt that He offers this Union to us all! However, I have bumped into a brick wall. How does one distinguish between scrupulous puritanism and the renouncement of all created things for the love of God? I love God very much and want to love Him more, but when I attempt the bodily mortifications recommended by the Saints in books about Union, I feel less capable of being a joyful wife and mother, less connected to my family in the sharing of a meal or a game or some other fun activity; a beer with my husband, for example. The fruits of these endeavors make me more difficult to live with; not more saintly! I am certain God does not want this, but He does want Union--even more than I do. That's the good news! Is there a separate path to Union for the married than to deny oneself all pleasures but those found in prayer?

Q2: Could you offer any TOB perspective on working out? If I honestly look at my heart as a young husband when I workout - the cultural air I'm breathing has filled it with vanity and ego associated with the increase of my strength. But I do feel a deep good in working out. My mind is just polluted by the culture. How can we maintain a St Joseph heart, while also putting effort into stewarding the masculine body that God gave us?

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Resources mentioned this week:

TOB Virtual Conference Premium Pass

TOB Virtual Conference in Spanish!

Jason Evert's Virtual Chastity Project Conference

Good News about Sex and Marriage


Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram.
Discover the Theology of the Body Institute.


If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening!


Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals.

Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Produced by Sounder and Key.

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05/18/20 • 39 min

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05/11/20 • 44 min

What does the church teach about organ donation? How do I remain faithful to Church teaching on contraception while dealing with sexually abused youth? How do I deal with an abusive and dismissive husband?

Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body.

Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron!


Q1: I am finishing up a semester to be a certified Spiritual Director at St. Vincent Archabbey Seminary. What books should I read or courses should I take to integrate John Paul II's teaching as a spiritual director?

Q2: How do I help those with same-sex attraction to learn about the Theology of the Body?

Q3: What does the Church teach regarding organ donation and the donation of bodies for scientific research post-mortem?

Q4: What is your advice for avoiding the way of the Stoic?

Q5: I work with youth who live in situations where they face danger of sexual abuse. Contraception is often a topic at issue in these situations. How do I remain faithful to the teaching of the Church in these circumstances?

Q6: My husband says that I must have sex with him every 48 hours. Otherwise, he will fall into masturbation and mortal sin. He says it is my duty to prevent this. What do I do?

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Resources mentioned this week:

Theology of the Body Virtual Conference Premium Pass

At the Heart of the Gospel book

Word Made Flesh: A Companion to the Sunday Readings book

The Writings of Fr. Jacques Philippe

Anna Carter and Eden Invitation

Andrew Comiskey and Desert Stream Ministries

Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram.
Discover the Theology of the Body Institute.


If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening!


Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals.

Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Produced by Sounder and Key.

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05/11/20 • 44 min

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Beyond Rejection | ACW70

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05/04/20 • 36 min

I'm very saddened by the loss of the Eucharist in quarantine. What do I do? God created man (male and female) in his own image, but God is not biological. How does this work? How do I deal with deep feelings of rejection after divorce and annulment?

Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body.

Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron!


Q1: My question is about quarantine and the Eucharist, and I am sure others can relate. I have recently been falling more in love with the Lord through the Eucharist, but I took it for granted that He would be there at Mass every Sunday, and I didn't take time out of my week to go to daily Mass, which I now regret. I ache deeply to receive Jesus sacramentally and I long for the physical closeness of receiving Him in the Eucharist. I realize that the ache is a good thing, in a way, but often find myself resenting the fact that I cannot now receive Communion, and I tend toward self pity in this, not prayer. How can I recognize the grace God is offering in this time of trial and pray into the ache it is bringing about in my heart?

Q2: So in Genesis 1:27, which I'm sure you're very familiar with, it says "So God created humankind in his image, in the image of God he created them, male and female he created them."
So it says that God created them in his image, but he doesn't have a body, so it must be a different kind of image, not a biological one. But he says that he created them in the image of God, then he continues to elaborate by saying that that image is in the gender of Male and female. So my question is, if being in God's image is not meant biologically, how is it shown in the genders of male and female?

Q3: I am currently undergoing the divorce and annulment process. One of the largest reasons for things ending is that she just refused to have a physical relationship with me. After a lot of detailed conversations with priests and my counselor I can accept intellectually that I am not to blame for this, but I am really struggling with deep feelings of rejection and that there must be something wrong with me. Any advice?

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Resources mentioned this week:

TOB Virtual Conference May 8-10, 2020


Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram.
Discover the Theology of the Body Institute.


If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening!


Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals.

Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

Produced by Sounder and Key.

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05/04/20 • 36 min

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Is the Woman to Blame? | ACW79

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07/06/20 • 35 min

What is your opinion on the negative impact popular music has on the way men treat women? Are women responsible for presenting themselves in a way that does not arouse lust? My husband refuses to be intimate with me because of my dedication to the faith. What should I do?

Ask Christopher West is a weekly podcast in which Theology of the Body Institute President Christopher West and his beloved wife Wendy share their humor and wisdom, answering questions about marriage, relationships, life, and the Catholic faith, all in light of John Paul II’s beautiful teachings on the Theology of the Body.

Want to support the Theology of the Body Institute? Become a Patron!


Q1: Frist, I want to thank you for your podcast. It has helped me a lot in my life. I am currently finishing my last year of college studying psychology in Mexico and for me to graduate, I have to do a thesis. The topic I'm investigating is the impact popular music has on male college students to the way they see women – how listening to some types of music affects men in the objectification of women. I know Christopher is a big fan of music, so I wanted to hear your opinion on the negative impact popular music, especially rap and hip-hop genre, could have on men in the way they see and treat women.

Q2: I recently listened to Jason Evert interview Christopher West for the Love Life Conference. I had a question about something in the beginning when they spoke of jewels not being the cause of theft and the beauty of woman not being the cause of lust. I understand that, but is there some responsibility on the part of the woman to present herself in a wholesome way? I'm not saying we need to wear burlap sacks around but is there some sort of line that's crossed between wholesome beauty and something else? I remember a girl in highschool wanted to go to school in a t-shirt with no bra because she said, "It's my body. I'm not ashamed." Well that's not wrong; it's good not to be ashamed of our bodies, but we also need to respect others in how we present ourselves. I would appreciate your thoughts on this matter.

Q3: About seven years ago I had a radical reversion to our faith. I have fallen completely in love with our Lord and the beautiful faith that He left us. I just can't get enough of Theology of the Body. The problem is that only I feel this way. My husband has no interest in the beautiful teaching's of our faith and is quite hostile about TOB. He says I have changed in the way we're intimate together and perhaps I have because I have such profound reverence for the gift of the marital embrace. I love my husband very much and I long to be close to him, but he says that as long as I quote "love my faith more than him" then sex can't be what it used to be. He says that he is very sad and there is nothing to be done for it. He isn't open to counseling. He often expresses resentment that I love our Lord more than Him. I honestly just don't know what to do with this. I want to have a loving, healthy marriage but my husband has shut down nearly all intimacy.

Submit your question at AskChristopherWest.com.


Find Christopher West on Facebook and Instagram.
Discover the Theology of the Body Institute.


If you enjoy the podcast, help us out by writing a review. Thanks for listening!


Christopher and Wendy hope their advice is helpful to you, but they are not licensed counseling professionals. If you are dealing with serious issues, please consult our list of trusted professionals.

Featuring music by Mike Mangione.

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Ask Christopher West currently has 232 episodes available.

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The podcast is about Catholic, Health & Fitness, Christianity, Sex, Religion & Spirituality, Podcasts, Marriage, Relationships, Sexuality and Christian.

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The episode title 'It's in the New Testament Somewhere | ACW78' is the most popular.

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The average episode length on Ask Christopher West is 40 minutes.

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