Around the Kinky Kampfire Podcast

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What happens when you mix a vibrant author, a love for smutty romance, and a passion for alternative lifestyles? You get an electrifying conversation with Shannon Elliott, who's as multifaceted as they come. Shannon shares her journey into the world of polyamory, swinging, and kink, offering insights that are as educational as they are entertaining. My alter ego, Mr. Criss P Bacon, is thrilled to connect over our shared love for the unconventional and explore the dynamic energy at events like the Smut Lovers convention. Through personal stories and a few laughs, we set the stage for an engaging discussion on embracing one's unique path.
Ever wondered how a repressive upbringing could lead to a late sexual awakening? Together, Shannon and I uncover the power of storytelling in understanding diverse lifestyles, highlighting the importance of authenticity in the podcasting world. We navigate the complexities and joys of alternative communities like BDSM, swinging, and polyamory, balancing academic insights with raw, real-life experiences. The conversation takes an introspective turn as we share personal tales and emphasize the role of education in dispelling myths and offering accurate representations in media.
Personal growth and self-care are at the heart of our discussion on solo polyamory and independence. With an empowering look at embracing "selfishness" in a positive light, we explore the importance of understanding personal energy and rhythms. Wrapping up with an exciting announcement for "Around the Kinky Kampfire," listeners are guided on where to find more content and join our enthusiastic community. There's optimism and excitement for future episodes, with Shannon promising a return, and a hopeful nod to the Law of Attraction for continued success.
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Shannon Elliot is a neurodivergent polyamorous bisexual Gemini who’s never made a decision in her life. She’s also an author of queer kinky romance--spank the rainbow, bitches!
As an author, Shannon believes that representation should be the foundation of the romance genre. We all deserve our own kinky, queer and maybe unconventional HEAs.
When she’s not coming up with fantasies for us to devour, she can be found hanging out with her co-author, Elliot, or hanging out at a club or kink event with her lifestyle community.
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Imagine navigating the challenging labyrinth of identity in a world that often expects conformity. That's what we explore as we journey through the Cass Model, a framework that psychologist Vivian Cass crafted to illuminate the path of identity acquisition. While originally designed to map out homosexual identity development, we uncover its broader relevance for all who are on their personal quests, especially within diverse communities like BDSM, non-monogamy, and the queer spectrum. Growing up in a conservative environment, I share my personal saga of discovering and aligning with the terms and identities that truly resonate with me, including embracing my gender fluidity. Our conversation hopes to spark personal reflection and encourage listeners to embark on their own paths of identity exploration.
We traverse the emotional and often tumultuous terrain of identity confusion and comparison, pondering how societal norms and expectations can muddy one's self-perception. From navigating the hurdles of growing up in a religious household to finding solace in an accepting community, this episode is a testimony to the resilience required for authentic self-discovery. We also discuss the lifelong nature of identity development, acknowledging its ebbs and flows and the influence of cultural and societal pressures. While the Cass Model provides a foundational lens, we also critique its limitations, especially its lack of sociocultural nuance. Join us as we offer insights and support for anyone grappling with the complexities of personal identity.

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What if your way of expressing affection isn't hitting the mark with your loved ones? Join us here at Around the Kinky Kampfire: Pillow Fort Sessions as we navigate the intriguing world of love languages, a concept that has sparked curiosity since Gary Chapman introduced it in 1992. With a playful twist, we unravel the origins and applications of these five love languages—not just in romance but in friendships and family ties, too. Expect a blend of humor and insight as we challenge assumptions and explore how these Love Languages shape our interactions.
In a world where miscommunication can often lead to misunderstandings, we shine a spotlight on the art of clear communication. Personal anecdotes bring to life the importance of knowing your partner's love language—be it Quality Time, Physical Touch, Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, or giving/receiving Gifts. We compare these Love Languages to familiar territory like the Myers-Briggs test, reminding us of their non-scientific nature while highlighting their potential to enhance our connections. Quality Time takes center stage for those introverts among us who cherish intentional connection, proving that a text or a physical presence can indeed transform relationships.
Wrapping up by touching on our Instagram corner, Kampfire Kinksters, we invite you to continue the conversation beyond the podcast. Delve into the nuances of giving and receiving affection through the Love Languages. Whether you're a Words of Affirmation aficionado or a Gift-giving guru, this episode offers a fresh perspective on understanding love languages and creating meaningful connections. Join us next week for more fun and insight from the warmth of our kampfire.

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Have you ever wondered how relationships can thrive beyond the bounds of sex and romance? Join me, El Comidin, also known as Taco Knuckle or the Cuddle Gigolo or HH Julius on a fascinating journey through the landscape of asexuality and diverse attractions. I begin with my personal story of realization, moving closer to identifying with the asexual spectrum rather than as a demisexual. As we navigate through sex-repulsed, sex-neutral, and sex-positive identities, you'll gain insight into how these differ from celibacy, a choice, rather than an orientation. Through sharing my experiences, you'll come to see how connections can flourish on the foundations of emotional and intellectual bonds.
The world of attraction is vast and varied, and we explore its many facets beyond the typical physical or sexual allure. Experience the nuances of aesthetic attraction, where admiration doesn't equate to desire, and discover how sensual desires differ from sexual ones through tactile expressions like hugging. Emotional attraction shines a light on the appreciation of a person's essence, while intellectual attraction focuses on the way someone thinks, steering clear of potentially ableist terms like "sapiosexual." By challenging these conventional labels, we broaden the conversation, particularly from an asexual perspective, to affirm that meaningful connections are often rooted in empathy and understanding.
We also delve into the split attraction model, offering a historical lens on terms like limerence, asexuality, and aromanticism. This framework helps untangle the web of different attractions, separating them from sexual orientation and shedding light on how identities can be multifaceted. As research and dialogue within the LGBTQIA+ community continue to grow, we highlight the importance of recognizing these distinctions while respecting the complexities they bring. With a touch on kink culture and the celebration of inspiring content creators, this episode encourages you to reflect on your own identity and the spectrum of attractions defining human connections.

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Ever wondered how smut literature intersects with BDSM, queer communities, and non-monogamy? Join me, HH Julius—your favorite host, also known as Cuddle Gigolo aka El Comiden aka Taco Knuckle—as I unravel my experiences at the Smut Lovers Convention 2024 in Central Florida. Volunteering at this vibrant event opened my eyes to the community's inner workings and the educational value it offers. In this episode, I share my journey through panels, highlight the importance of accurate representation in smut literature, and reveal how these stories can provide readers with valuable insights into the lifestyles they depict.
Excited to connect with like-minded individuals and create a welcoming space for newcomers? I recount the thrill of engaging with the BDSM and smut book communities, emphasizing the need for a safe environment where questions are encouraged. Hear about the positive vibes from tattoo artists who praised SmutCon attendees for their respectfulness and find out about my own tattoo anxieties. Plus, get a glimpse into the convenience of convention apps for staying informed and connected throughout the event.
Curious about how to get started in BDSM or non-monogamy? Tune in as I stress the importance of doing preliminary research and actively participating in these communities. Reflecting on the enriching experience of attending conventions, I celebrate those who create content and contribute to the community's growth. Whether you're a seasoned participant or a curious newcomer, I urge you to join Around the Kinky Kampfire Instagram KampfireKinksters to engage, ask questions, and become part of this ever-evolving world.

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