Are You Me?

Who knew that there were so many different ways to be single/dumped? The ghosts of relationships and situationships disappear in many ways, some as abruptly as a magician and others a softly as a 90's song's fade out.

In this conversation (in which we learn way more than we ever wanted to know about modern dating terms), we talk about how the endings of relationships often turn lovers to strangers. In the wise words of Mita, one clear thing is that “the streets are wretched.” So, come into #TheRUME - we’ll make sure we say goodbye before leaving.

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Baa baa black sheep, have you any wool? No sir, no ma'am, but we do have gist...and that's on Mary had a little lamb! In our toughest conversation yet, we discuss some of the dynamics and challenges we experienced growing up in our families and as part of the same extended family.

This one's about dealing with expectation, pushing through reputation and doing things differently in our generation. We are family, I've still got my cousin with me, and you can join us too.

Our greatest hope is that this conversation helps you have more open conversations about this too. Come into #TheRUME 🧡💛💚

2020 was a year for the books, and may the books be burned! In this conversation, we reflect on the highs, lows and weirdness of our year in all areas from family to relationships to just staying alive. We talk about new opportunities, dashed hopes, failed forays, too many tragedies and big girl growth. It's not always fun, but it's certainly better when we do it together.

Honestly we get it if you don't want to do this, we're exhausted from this year too, but we promise we enclosed some little joys and a whole lot of reassurance that you're not alone. Wishing you all the best for 2021. Join us in #TheRUME.

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"He was not what I wanted, but he's what I needed." Can you imagine someone saying this about you? GOD FORBID.

In this conversation, we discuss relationship scenarios where people are clearly being indulged and tolerated instead of adored and celebrated.

Be warned: men are trash, women are trash, and the patriarchy is the trashest of them all.

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"Spare the rod and spoil the child ," they say. Welp...here we are ripe, grown and ready to clap back. This conversation is all about being raised the Nigerian way - with fear, trembling and plenty of cane. We talk about the additional pressures that come with being the first born, first girl, a girl and just existing as a child tbh. And we can't possibly leave out the hot and inexplicable beatings received along the way.

Join us in #theRUME. Don't worry, we'll go easy on you 😏