An A to Z of Sex with Men

This week Raphael and Jacinta are joined by very special guest, Achim Brandenburg (aka Prosumer) to delve into the topic of Heartbreak.

We look at post-breakup heartbreak, the heartbreak after the loss of a loved one, and the physical impact heartbreak can have on your actual heart. Amongst the usual 'extensive' research, practical (and less practical) advice, witty anecdotes and film discussion, Achim movingly shares his feelings of heartbreak following the recent loss of his close friend, Gary. We feel so privileged to have been able to honour Gary and his memory and legacy on our podcast and would like to dedicate this episode to him.

This week's Heartbreak related film is Mario (a 2018 Swiss film directed by Marcel Gisler), a love story between footballers Mario and Leon. Our nutshell review is: 'beautiful sex scenes, too much football, why is being gay always the problem??' but listen to the episode for our in depth analysis.

TW: Coercion and Sexual Assault (5:53 - 10:16)

Sources and recommendations:

'The Science of a Broken Heart and How to Put It Back Together' - https://greatist.com/happiness/science-broken-heart#death

'Hacking Heartbreak: The Ultimate Guide to Getting Over 'The One'' - https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/996edc30-d6e9-480b-b4a8-15b626f0aa76

Follow Achim on instagram here: @prosumerama

Contact Achim about hypnotherapy and sound/gong baths here: https://resonant.me/about/

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Hark! What’s that you hear? Raphael and Jacinta are back?! With the letter H?!! ‘And what’s H for?’ you ask. Horny hopes, humiliating horrors, heartwarming happenings; why it’s the humble Hookup of course!

Hop aboard for a first-hand history of hookups full of helpful hints and heinous howlers. Hilarious, hopeless or horrific? Take from it what you will...

There are no specific trigger warnings this week.

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For a podcast about sex, there's been remarkably little chat about the specifics of genitalia so far. It's now time to change all that with this week's episode, P is for Penis! (Don't worry, Vulvas will be getting an episode too, you've just gotta wait a few weeks for that one.)

Join Raphael and Jacinta as they talk penis parts (inside and out), penises in art (spoiler: there are a lot), and tell stories of penises they have known and loved.

TW: There are no trigger warnings this week.

Sources and recommendations:

'10 things you didn't know about the penis' - https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/320748#5.-One-final-erection

'Cleopatra: Histories, Dreams and Distortions' by Lucy Hughes-Hallet - https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/505261.Cleopatra

Find out more about the Icelandic Phallological Museum here:

https://phallus.is/en/

Find out more about the V&A 'Fashioning Masculinities' here:

https://www.vam.ac.uk/exhibitions/fashioning-masculinities-the-art-of-menswear

Follow the incredible drag king, Hot Rod, on Instagram at @hotrod_drag

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This week we are getting technical and discussing the all important genitals!

We all have them, we all use them (for peeing if not for sexing), but do we really know them? A bit of research suggests that, no, we don't. Vas deferens anyone? Or what about a mons pubis? In this episode we try to clarify a bit of genital biology, as well as exploring our relationship with our own genitals. Turns out it can be complicated, but ultimately, every genital is different and, more importantly, every genital is gorgeous!

At the end of the episode we treat ourselves to genital filled movie, Wetlands, based on the novel of the same name by Charlotte Roche. It's visceral, gross, sweet, sexy, and excellent. We can heartily recommend!

There are no trigger warnings this week!

Sources and recommendations:

'Female Internal Genital Organs' - https://www.msdmanuals.com/en-gb/home/women-s-health-issues/biology-of-the-female-reproductive-system/female-internal-genital-organs

Intersex information - https://medlineplus.gov/ency/article/001669.htm

Genitalia sketches - https://dirtycode.io/

Books we mentioned were:

- How to be a Woman by Caitlin Moran

Cunt by Inga Muscio

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In this week’s episode Jacinta and Raphael go back a few thousand years and uncover some mythical memoirs of monolithic proportions. It seems not much has changed since those ‘good old days’ when heroes and gods roamed the earth, causing confusion with their bows and arrows (and genitals) and epically sized desires. Metamorphosing into “golden showers”, bulls, and a menagerie of other totally mundane and normal things; shacking up with goddesses while leaving your long suffering wife to deal (or not deal) with the fallout; abandoning women on remote islands; hitting men in the head with flying rocks; it’s a miscellany of monsters and mayhem.

What could be more relevant to our sex lives today than the bizarre and ancient world of mythology? The answer, they think you’ll agree, is ‘not much’!

While there are no personal or ‘real’ stories of rape and sexual assault, if these are triggers for you, please note that these concepts are explored through the concepts of Greek (and other) myths, and discussed more generally throughout the episode. Listener discretion is advised.

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Sources and recommendations:

Olivia Olsen - creator of alternative telling of The Odyssey, 'Penelope the Odyssey through her Eyes'

https://www.cssd.ac.uk/staff-profiles/olivia-olsen

Let's Talk about Myths Baby - podcast:

https://www.mythsbaby.com/

The Song of Achilles by Madeline Miller

http://madelinemiller.com/the-song-of-achilles/

Circe by Madeline Miller

http://madelinemiller.com/circe/

1000 Ships by Natalie Haynes

https://nataliehaynes.com/books/a-thousand-ships/

The Children of Jocasta by Natalie Haynes

https://nataliehaynes.com/books/the-children-of-jocasta/

Mythos by Stephen Fry

https://www.waterstones.com/book/mythos/stephen-fry/9781405934138

The Silence of the Girls by Pat Barker

https://www.waterstones.com/book/the-silence-of-the-girls/pat-barker/9780241983201

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