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Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist

Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist

Alec Mapa

HOT MESS is a laugh-out-loud podcast with Actor & Comedian Alec Mapa along with professional psychotherapist, Matthew Dempsey, who both explore the pursuit of health and wellness in a hilarious and compassionate way. Everyone’s trying to survive in a world that’s turned upside down, but beneath the surface we’re all a HOT MESS and the healing process can trigger intense feelings. But, have no fear, Alec and Matthew are here! They’ll zero in on an ISSUE OF THE DAY to compare and despair uncertainties, anxiety of social media, body image, aging in a youth-obsessed culture and unaddressed conflict that is HOLDING YOU BACK. They’ll discuss practical coping strategies and workable solutions that get down to the nitty gritty of what it takes to FEEL BETTER. All discussed with compassion, honesty, vulnerability and above all humor. Each week a celebrity guest will join them to discuss their own wellness journey including failures, frustrations, and ultimately what worked for them. By sharing real-life stories with complete candor, they aim to empower you with valuable information, the knowledge you’re not alone, we’re ALL works in progress and feeling good is the ultimate goal of anyone who’s a HOT MESS.
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Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist - BenDeLaCreme: How Our Struggles Shape Us

BenDeLaCreme: How Our Struggles Shape Us

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03/23/21 • 53 min

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey psychotherapist, Alec and Matt have a revealing and intimate conversation with creator and star of The Jinkx and DeLa Holiday Special and star of RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 6 and RuPaul’s Drag Race All Stars Season 3, BenDeLaCreme. Alec opens up about how his “cracking up” led him to become the person he is today and Matt shares he’s been feeling down and isolated over the last year. The two talk about dealing with sadness and working to reframe difficult emotions and experiences in order to deal with them more effectively.

BenDeLaCreme talks openly about his struggles growing up-the unrelenting grief he felt after his mom died at age 13, his distant relationship with his father, the

pain of being bullied and beaten-up for being overweight and gay, and the depression and suicidal thoughts that he struggled with often. DeLa shares how she found drag at an early age and what the creation of DeLa means in her life and for her emotional well-being. DeLa shares her long and difficult journey to finally identifying the right mental health diagnosis and medication to treat her effectively.

Alec, Matt, and DeLa talk and laugh throughout the episode about their pain, struggles, the gift of therapy and the right medication, healing, and accepting and appreciating your whole complicated beautiful self.

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Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist - Mario Cantone: Election Night Aftermath

Mario Cantone: Election Night Aftermath

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11/10/20 • 50 min

On this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Mathew Dempsey Psychotherapist, the hosts welcome celebrated actor and comedian Mario Cantone, known for his Tony Nominated One Man show “Laugh Whore”, his scene stealing performance as Anthony Marantino on Sex and The City and as host of the popular children’s program Steampipe Alley. The three have an uncensored and hilarious conversation about dealing with anxiety and stress in both helpful and unhelpful ways, cutting off family members, homophobia, secrets of the comedy world, coping with Tequila and so much more.

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Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist - Sandra Bernhard: Parenting

Sandra Bernhard: Parenting

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07/28/20 • 42 min

How does being a parent magnify who you really are? In this week’s episode, Alec and Matthew breakdown the psychology of what it means to be a parent and shed light on the layers parenthood with comedian and actress Sandra Bernhard. The “Sandyland” SiriusXM radio host talks about why she decided to become a Mom later in life at 43 years old and how it changed her overall mindset. The outspoken actress reveals her selfless parenting style as a famous mom and how she was able to balance her family life and career. Sandy is working from her home recording her radio show but says she misses interacting with people on the road. Her 22-year-old daughter is back at home and admits it’s a learning process being under one roof as a family during quarantine. Alec shares his own personal journey navigating his way through parenthood and recounts the adoption process with his husband for his son Zion. Sandra, who plays the compassionate role of Nurse Judy on “Pose”, reveals the surprising way she got the role and describes the overwhelming feeling of playing a character who hits close to home for her. Find out Sandra’s “Hot message” of the day and how Alec was brainwashed by Lesbians! Say what now?

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Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist - Best of Hot Messages

Best of Hot Messages

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12/28/21 • 22 min

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec selects some of the most impactful and helpful Hot Messages from the show. Listen to what Jodi Sweetin, Jackie Beat, Joely Fisher, Tina Burner, Naomi Ekperigin, Johnny Sibily, Denali, Nikki Blonksy and others have to say about what has helped and inspired them to triumph over adversity and live with purpose, joy and peace.

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Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist - Ross Mathews: Understanding Grief

Ross Mathews: Understanding Grief

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12/21/21 • 48 min

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew re-air a heartfelt and hilarious conversation with a famous tv personality and author of Name Drop, Ross Mathews. This episode was recorded just after Ross’ mom passed away and Matt, Alec, and Ross talk about dealing with the loss of a loved one during the pandemic. Ross opens up about his special relationship with his mother, his coming out journey, letting himself grieve, and finding meaning in pain. Stay tuned for Ross’ story about how Matt LeBlanc was rude to him in public and then apologized to him 10 years later.

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Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist - Charles Phoenix: Reinventing Yourself

Charles Phoenix: Reinventing Yourself

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01/12/21 • 47 min

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Mathew talk with American pop culture humorist, historian, performer, chef and author of “Holiday Jubilee” Charles Phoenix. Matthew and Alec discuss feeling blue, the pain of growth, our tendency to overthink things, and learning to live with who we are. Charles Phoenix shares the creative steps he has taken to reinvent himself during the pandemic and how he has trained his brain to think positively during this challenging time. Matthew and Alec examine the difference between choosing a positive mindset and the concept of toxic positivity when you refuse to acknowledge your emotional experience. On a lighter note, Charles shares with Alec and Matthew his love for all things retro and his ideas for fried cereal, and his world-famous cherpumple!

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Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist - Nikki Blonsky: Coming out

Nikki Blonsky: Coming out

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10/20/20 • 43 min

Actress Nikki and Alec are good friends so she holds nothing back when she guests on Hot Mess! Nikki and Alec talk through her decision to come out for the first time on his Instagram Live and why she felt that was the exact right time to do it! Alec and Matthew share their stories of their first kisses with men and how making the decision to come out has totally changed their lives. The three talk openly about their greatest insecurities and Nikki shares a story about a date who did something so bizarre you won’t believe it!

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Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist - Bruce Vilanch: Radical Acceptance

Bruce Vilanch: Radical Acceptance

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09/01/20 • 44 min

In this episode of Hot Mess, hosts comedian Alec Mapa and Dr. Matthew Dempsey get deep with Emmy Award winning comedy writer Bruce Vilanch – the brilliant voice behind the Oscars and iconic stars like Bette Midler and Whoopi Goldberg. They discuss a range of issues from being gay in Hollywood, the Vietnam war draft, and the Covid19 pandemic and how radical acceptance has become a necessary tool in their lives. While radical acceptance teaches us tolerance skills designed to keep trauma from turning into suffering, they playfully talk about gay cruises, why one of them recently pooped their pants (download this podcast to find out which one) and the ways they cope with painful issues. For lots of laughs and tips on accepting what you can’t change – tune into this HOT MESS today.

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Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist - Tom Lenk: Shame Triggers

Tom Lenk: Shame Triggers

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03/16/21 • 53 min

You won’t want to miss this special episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, in which Matt and guest, SAG award-winning actor, singer, Broadway star, comedian and accidental Instagram Superstar, Tom Lenk have a vulnerable and hilarious conversation about a video Matt posted online that triggered shame for both of them. The episode starts with Alec and Matt exploring shame triggers in their own lives and how they compensate for feelings of self-loathing. Both Alec and Matt share personal stories of feeling intense shame in their lives and they explore the physiological and psychological impact of the experience of shame.

Guest Tom Lenk then confronts Matt about a video Matt posted about his “Pretty Privilege” and Matt shares his regret and shame about the unanticipated negative response he got from his followers. Tom explores candidly why the video got him so “lathered up” and how it triggered in him feelings of not being attractive or good enough. The two have an exposing and vulnerable dialogue and work to understand each other’s perspectives and learn from what transpired.

The three go on to talk openly and laugh often about the benefits of long-term therapy, transference, feeling left out, and learning to love yourself!

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Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist - Trixie Mattel: Elastic Thinking

Trixie Mattel: Elastic Thinking

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05/25/21 • 50 min

In this episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist, Alec and Matthew welcome word famous drag queen, star of the hit show “UNHhhh” and host of the podcast The Bald and the Beautiful, the hilarious Trixie Mattel. The three have a fascinating conversation on the topic of elastic thinking, what exactly it means and how it can help us to heal. Alec and Matt share how they have overcome trauma in their own lives and the tools they’ve used to build personal resilience. Trixie opens up about her abusive childhood including the surprising story of where the name Trixie originated. Trixie also opens up about the generational and cultural trauma that impacted her upbringing and about being half Ojibwe and yet also feeling culturally white.

Trixie shares how her drag persona is her fun vessel that enables her to live the life she has always wanted- dressing up pretty and playing with easy bake ovens. Trixie’s raw honesty and biting humor make this episode a must-hear and she will inspire you with her strong belief that whatever happens to us, we all have the choice to become victims or become survivors and to empower ourselves to create a life we love.

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How many episodes does Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist have?

Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist currently has 75 episodes available.

What topics does Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist cover?

The podcast is about Podcasts, Mental Health, Self-Improvement, Health & Fitness and Education.

What is the most popular episode on Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist?

The episode title 'Best of Hot Messages' is the most popular.

What is the average episode length on Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist?

The average episode length on Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist is 49 minutes.

How often are episodes of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist released?

Episodes of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist are typically released every 7 days.

When was the first episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist?

The first episode of Alec Mapa: Hot Mess with Matthew Dempsey Psychotherapist was released on Jun 1, 2020.

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