Re-Release of Vulnerability Part 4- How to Not Receive Someone // Episode 116

09/22/21 • 26 min

A Word from Our Outpost, with Joseph and Crystal Gruber

We're hopefully just days away from moving into our new house, so please excuse the repeated episode! We think it's still good and applicable!

The original description:

"I'd like to think I'm a good listener. In fact, let me tell you a story about me being a great listener...rather than actually listen to you." It's an oft-experienced phenomenon-- we start to think maybe genuine sharing of selves is about to happen, and then out of nowhere, we throw up a roadblock to real intimacy.

It's good to know about these roadblocks, and why they hinder real, meaningful conversations, so we share three of them. We referenced another pretty heavily in the third part of the vulnerability series, and that one is the giving of advice (when not asked for).

They're not always bad, and sometimes even good, but when we habitually turn a conversation into a storytime, or start praising someone evaluatively, or start reassuring them, we're thoughtlessly turning conversations into discussions about ourselves, our opinions, and our convictions, rather than giving the other a chance to share their side.

If you'd like to hear about more of them, let us know, or check out where we got them from: We're pulling from a book called People Skills, by Robert Bolton: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B003BFXAS0/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_hsch_vapi_tkin_p1_i0

It's a good book. It's not perfect, but it's ok.

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We're hopefully just days away from moving into our new house, so please excuse the repeated episode! We think it's still good and applicable!

The original description:

It's a good book. It's not perfect, but it's ok.

As always,

check out our work, and join our email list, at https://ouroutpost.org/
join our free resource library platform here
catch our other podcast, Love Your Marriage, by clicking here: https://ouroutpost.org/podcasts/
see what we have upcoming in terms of events here: https://ouroutpost.org/events/
send us an email at [email protected]
and please rate, review, and share!
If you're a Catholic husband, feel free to sign up for some time to chat with Joseph! https://bookme.name/ouroutpost/45-minutes-with-joseph

Previous Episode

Re-Release of Vulnerability Part 3- How to Receive Someone // Episode 115

Ladies and gentlemen, we're 3/4 of the way through our reposting of our series on vulnerability. Then we hope to be back to our contemporary-yet-still-timeless content habit of posting fresh content. But we had a baby two months ago, and bought a house six weeks ago, and are milking both of those excuses this month...

It's vulnerable to share with someone. It's also vulnerable to be the one receiving someone, and to avoid that discomfort, we tend to practice poor listening skills. Actually taking the time and energy to hear someone may take practice, but it's effort that is worth it.

Also, we talk at the end about how a certain Catholic practice tells us what receiving people should look like, ideally.

As always,

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Next Episode

College Like a Catholic // Episode 117

'Way back in the mid-30s of this podcast, we released five episodes on the college campus as an institution built for building a community of scholars, and how it was well-built to also be a place of evangelization (little wonder, as it is at its root a Catholic institution...). Recently, Joseph had a chance to condense those ideas and give a talk to real live college students. This is that talk, with a few deletions where either there was more audience interaction or where Joseph misspoke.

There was a powerpoint going on throughout. Hopefully the clicking noise doesn't bother you. Here's a link to the powerpoint to make up for the clicking: https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/19SDXnLfkBKvsmGgkNAk3xH3_rtaeC_Xp/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=109347061461753442400&rtpof=true&sd=true

We just moved into a new house, and our baby is starting to sleep more, so I'm hopeful we'll have more of the Joseph and Crystal dynamism soon!

In the meanwhile, please feel free to rate and review the podcast and share this episode. It may not appeal to you in your state in life, but you may know people that it could appeal to!

As always,

check out our work, and join our email list, at https://ouroutpost.org/
join our free resource library platform here
catch our other podcast, Love Your Marriage, by clicking here: https://ouroutpost.org/podcasts/
see what we have upcoming in terms of events here: https://ouroutpost.org/events/
send us an email at [email protected]
and please rate, review, and share!
If you're a Catholic husband, feel free to sign up for some time to chat with Joseph! https://bookme.name/ouroutpost/45-minutes-with-joseph