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2 Cent Dad Podcast

Mike Sudyk

Intentional fatherhood while living a life of purpose. Hosted by Mike Sudyk. www.2centdad.com
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2 Cent Dad Podcast - Fit Daddy 365 with Soren Harrison
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08/18/20 • 21 min

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2 Cent Dad Podcast - Coach Lantz Howard

Coach Lantz Howard

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06/16/23 • 33 min

Coach Lantz Howard joins the podcast.

https://www.lantzhoward.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/lantzhoward/

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2 Cent Dad Podcast - ReFABricating School with Ana Fabrega
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09/10/20 • 26 min

Ana joins me to chat about why kids need to be creative ini the classroom
(and at home!). Creativity is the name of the game in many cases. Not only has Ana had experiences that has shown he that kids work best when they are creative but finds that most schools just don't cut it in the creativity department and lack learning that gets kids excited.

Where to find Ana:

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[00:00:00] Ana: [00:00:00] kids are not interested in learning. They're interested in doing, they love creating. They love using their hands. They love exploring things. And again, it's very counterintuitive in school.

They do the opposite, right? Kids are sitting down with you. And they were listening for hours to a lecture. They have little opportunity to really engage in the content that they're learning, quote unquote. and that goes against everything we know about kids, right? Kids are very active kids love to explore.

So giving kids a chance at home to get really like hands on the things that they want to do. [00:01:00]

Mike: [00:01:09]

today on the podcast, I have a very special guest, miss fab, herself on a fiber guy, who is an edge opener, former teacher. but one of the things that she does is she, teachers, I think just really a different way to approach education.

And, I wanted to have her on to hear her a little bit of her story and how she can open up our minds a little bit on how we think about education for our kids. So Ana, thank you so much for being on the

Ana: [00:01:34] show. Thank you, Mike. Thank you for inviting me over. I'm excited to be here.

Mike: [00:01:38] Yeah. obviously a lot going on in the education space, given COVID and anywhere from elementary school, all the way up to higher education, there's a lot of disruption happening as much as I hate to overuse that word.

But, I know on a, you speak a lot on some of those trends that are happening, whether it's micro schools or other things that are Busting into the scene. [00:02:00] And I, one of the things that maybe you could give your background a little bit, the listeners, cause I know you have a teaching background and then we can jump into some of the things that happening.

Ana: [00:02:08] Yeah, sure. I think that's a good idea. My add typical school experience provided a springboard to, me wanting to transform this. so yeah, I was born in Panama, but due to my father's job, we had to relocate Kate a lot when I was a kid. So I was born here, but we moved to Colombia, Venezuela, India, Mexico, Brazil.

We lived in Panama and the U S yes. so by the time I was 14, I had been to. Seven different 10 different schools in seven different countries. And in regions, those specs, I know, realize that. a lot of my wanting to change things comes from what I saw in all this different placements. and it was, it looked pretty much the same, regardless of what school, what type of school, what country would continent the learning experience K through 12 doesn't really change.

and [00:03:00] I had this love for working with kids. I really wanted to be I'm a teacher and being the education space. So I studied childhood education. Special education at NYU. And I have the opportunity to be a student teacher, five different placements there while I was studying. And that was really the first time that I got to see teaching in its purest form and seeing what, they would consider great teachers doing what they do.

And it was evident, that kids were not really engaged. Kids were not really learning in terms of, they're not retaining the information after the tests. they're leaving school without an idea of what they want to do or what they're good at because they have very little opportunities to explore this and to build things and create things.

so I was seeing all these things, even from great teachers and I was wondering, what am I going to do when I have a classroom? So I then became a teacher and I taught in Boston for a year while my husband finished his MBA at a small private school. And I taught first and third grade there. And then I moved to [00:04:00] Panama.

I taught for four years at this big American in schools and I taught third and fourth grade. And that's when it really hit me. I don't really know what I'm doing here cause I love teaching, but I can't really do the things that seems valuable inside the system. I realized that schools worry too much about the specifics of what kids are learning and too little about whether kids are learning at all or the kinds of attitudes that kids hold toward learning.

it was really concerning...

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2 Cent Dad Podcast - Daddy Saturday with Justin Batt
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10/06/20 • 39 min

As a father of four children with an entrepreneurial wife who worked almost every Saturday, Justin quickly found himself alone, overwhelmed and outnumbered on Saturdays. He woke up one Saturday ready to make a change and armed with a game plan to engage my children in an intentional way. A trampoline, a GoPro, and 500 water balloons resulted in an incredible day with my children and he knew he was on to something special. His kids began asking on Wednesday, “Hey Dad, what’s the plan for Saturday?”. That has morphed into a book, a worldwide movement, and multiple non-profit efforts.

Where can you find Justin:

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[00:00:00] Justin: [00:00:00] this individual or independent drive that we've been given to, to be the man and to be the driver and to operate in that business capacity, which is easy for most guys.

And then, you know, we'd rather go be a workaholic and work more. Cause we know what that looks like. We know what the end result is. You don't always get that with your kids. And frankly, kids are also probably some of the most invalidating people that have ever existed.

Mike: [00:00:23] Have you ever experienced the daddy hangover on a Saturday? that's a term coined by Justin batt, who was a guest on the podcast today. He is the founder of daddy Saturday, which is a foundation and it's a platform and it's a book and it's all around how to get dads more engaged, specifically devoting time on Saturday.

To be a more engaged dad and to avoid the dad hangover. Which he would say is being physically present but not mentally present and being checked out so [00:01:00] he had some great wisdom to share on the podcast so let's jump into the interview with justin

Today on the podcast, we have Justin batt, who is the founder of daddy Saturday, which is a foundation that has been around since 2007, with the goal of impacting 10 million fathers in the next 10 years.

And I'm Hey Justin, thanks for being on the show.

Justin: [00:01:22] Mike. I'm so glad to be here. Thanks for having me. And, um, I got to say a bit of a clarifying statement. Yeah. So I've been a dad since 2007. The foundation started about a year and a half ago, but I always backdated to that because that's the date that I officially became a dad and entered this journey of fatherhood.

Mike: [00:01:41] That's awesome, man. No, I think that's, that's a, that's an appropriate backdating. I mean, that's when that's, when you actually started the true foundation, which is, is it your kids? Right.

Justin: [00:01:50] They're founded as a right.

Mike: [00:01:53] Yeah. So tell, tell us a little bit about, um, the whole foundation and what you got going on.

I just love, um, [00:02:00] the content you put out and I know that you you're also the author of a book. Um, so tell me a little about the foundation, how it came. He came to be.

Justin: [00:02:07] Yeah, I'll give you the, the Genesis of daddy Saturday. So essentially about 13 years ago, my wife decided to leave teaching and go into being an entrepreneur.

I supported her a hundred percent of the journey. I was a young corporate executive at the time in the pharma industry. And so we decided to embark and then entrepreneur journey. At the same time we had our daughter, our first child. And so my wife found herself being a entrepreneur, owning a couture bridal boutique.

And that meant she worked, you know, most weekends every Saturday, all day. So I was at home with our daughter at the time, and then we added three more boys to the mix one every two years. So very quickly, I'm a setting that corporate ladder I'm home with all four kids all day on Saturday, eight to 10 hours, just dad and the kids and quickly found myself overwhelmed, overcome often feeling very inadequate and having what I call the dad [00:03:00] hangover on a lot of those Saturdays.

I mean, I was there with my kids physically. Um, but I wasn't always emotionally present. I wasn't giving my all in those days. And I realized that I'd been given it gift of spending that Saturday with my kids. So I started to just change everything and, and became intentional and engaged and was plannin...

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2 Cent Dad Podcast - Burnout and Sabbatical with Sean McCabe
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11/03/20 • 63 min

"I completely numbed myself out because it's like, you know, what do you do if your kid's stuck under the car? Like. You lift up the car, you find a way, and if it feels like your, your arms are going to come out of their sockets, will you keep holding until they crawl out from underneath the car?

You don't know where you find the energy you just, you just do. Right. It was like that, you know, you just have to numb yourself out to take care of people. But that was the wrong way to go about it. Like I, and of course it ultimately reached a breaking point. I ultimately reached a breaking point that resulted in my being burned out and depressed for two years." -Sean McCabe

Have you ever thought to yourself "am I burning out?", then that means you already are on your way (according to Sean McCabe).

Sean (known to most as seanwes) talks about burnout from very real experience, having reached max burnout running his company over the past 10 years. He is someone that I have followed over the past few years because of the wisdom that he shares openly with his audience, this topic being no exception. This topic is so very important today more than ever due to the changes going on in the world. Most people are operating in some low level burn out state and don't realize it or know how to fix it.

Very fun chat with Sean. I also found out in the interview that he is from a family with 13 kids!

Where to find Sean:
Twitter: https://twitter.com/seanwes
His Blog: https://seanwes.com/
His Agency: DailyContentMachine.co

Transcript Below (May contain typos):
Sean: [00:00:00] [00:00:00]I completely numbed myself out because it's like, you know, what do you do if your kid's stuck under the car? Like. You lift up the car, you find a way, and if it feels like your, your arms are going to come out of their sockets, will you keep holding until they crawl out from underneath the car?

You don't know where you find the energy you just, you just do. Right. It was like that, you know, you just have to numb yourself out to take care of people. But that was the wrong way to go about it. Like I, and of course it ultimately reached a breaking point. I ultimately reached a breaking point that resulted in my being burned out and depressed for two years.

Mike: [00:00:38] Have you ever asked yourself? I feel like I might be burning out. Well, if you have, then you probably already are on your way. It just a matter of how burned out you are, but you're inevitably going to reach that point of total burnout unless you change something. , that was the advice given by today's guest, Sean McCabe.

[00:01:00] Most might know him by his, online named Sean Wes. He's a guy that I've followed for quite a few years and very prolific entrepreneur online, very, , inspiring creator, , in a lot of the work that he does, but. He shares a lot of good wisdom around the topic of burnout, which has come up a lot in conversations I've had with fellow entrepreneurs.

So if you're feeling like you're burned out, I encourage you just to listen in on today's episode, to understand a little bit more about what you can do about it. And one of the topics that Sean talks about is this notion of a sabbatical. And it's something I've been really interested in, really seeing a lot more people.

Experiment with it. And there will be more content on that to come in the podcast. But I wanted you to learn from Sean and hear his story because. The last thing you want to do is repeat a mistake that you could have [00:02:00] learned by hearing someone else talk about it so let's jump into the episode with sean

today on the podcast, we have a very special guest, um, Sean McCabe known on the internet as Shawn West, um, from many projects, but I've been following Sean for a long time. He does amazing work. He is an entrepreneur with many different ventures. He's an author, podcaster, vlogger, um, He's not a dad, but he brings a very unique perspective to balancing entrepreneurship with, um, with burnout and, and, and a sabbatical as a solution.

So, Sean, thank you so much for being on the show, man. It's it's such an honor to have you on the show.

Sean: [00:02:39] Oh, thanks so much, Mike. I I've been looking forward to it. I'm glad we were able to make it happen. You're right. Not a dad, but I am the oldest of 13 kids and I've changed well over a thousand diapers. So I don't know what that qualifies me, but

Mike: [00:02:52] I should have known that before this interview, I knew you had a big family.

You're the oldest of

Sean: [00:02:56] 13 kids. That is awesome.

Mike: [00:02:59] That is [00:03:00] amazing. Yeah. So, so we need to ...

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2 Cent Dad Podcast - Gap year on Steroids with Josh Sabo
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10/12/20 • 26 min

Summary
High education is in crisis. Student debt in the USA is now past $1.6 Trillion and many students are coming out ill-equipped as well as disillusioned. Josh Sabo is trying to help students caught up in this. He is the founder of a non-profit called "The Industry". They help people sort out their careers and life, to develop a plan that sets them up for success in each area.

Where to Find Josh:

Transcription below (may contain typo's...):

[00:00:00] Josh: [00:00:00] and that's, what's so important about our line. We help young people clarify their career path. Just like you said, with those glasses, when it's clear, it's easy, maybe not easy but easier.

You, you know where you're heading. You know, you have a, the detailed plan, our students graduate with a detailed life plan. That means, what am I doing tomorrow the next day, next week, all the way to their end, a vision plan, where they have that house, they have that family, they have that job. That's perfect for them and we help them connect the dots all the way through.

Mike: [00:00:33] Today's episode is all about college and careers. Did you know that the total us student debt is 1.6 trillion with a T trillion dollars. And that the average student holds about $30,000 of debt. Wow. Those are astronomical numbers. Maybe some of those you knew, but nonetheless [00:01:00] daunting. And so there's obviously a large crisis at hand here. And so I talked with Josh

Who's the founder of a non-profit called the industry. And what they do is they work with, , future college students, current college students, and even graduates to sort out their life and help them plan out what the best path is for them. Sometimes that. Includes college. Sometimes it doesn't include college, but they are trying to beat this hat on to prevent students from racking up a bunch of debt, just to figure out they didn't want to do that thing.

So let's jump into the episode with Josh. He shares a little bit about what they are doing now, what the future of the organization is and where they are pro success, not anti college.

welcome to another edition of the Tucson dad podcast. Today. I have the pleasure of speaking with mr. Josh SIBO, who runs the industry.

He's also a good friend of mine. He was a, I [00:02:00] lived with him when I was in college. So we go way back. So Josh, thank you so much for being on the podcast, man.

Josh: [00:02:06] And it's good to be here.

Mike: [00:02:08] So you are. You are disrupting the college kind of plan in a good way, in the sense like what the industry does is it helps people avoid getting into tons of debt.

And just going into colleges cause that's the default, right? Maybe I should let you pitch it. Cause I'm real excited. I love, I love what you're doing, man.

Josh: [00:02:28] I mean, I don't know. I'm not sure if anybody can agree that a bunch of debt is a good thing, unless that debt is going to a degree, that's going to make you more money.

That'll pay it off and make you more money in the end. Uh, it was funny. I think it was Warren buffet that says I wouldn't invest in most kids' college education. So it's gotta be a real investment, but we are not against, we are pro success. We are anti failure. And with the amount of people that are graduating and not using their degree for its intended purpose, the amount of freshmen that are dropping out, I think it's at 36%.

[00:03:00] Um, there was a new study out that 60 something percent of young people are just disappointed with the jobs they have after college. They use their degree for, so the industry is a program that helps young people clarify their career path. Uh, IBM we just partnered with IBM and they said they wanted to partner with us because we have a listic view of education with the individual.

So essentially we'll look at the idea unity of the person, you know, a lot of people say, follow your passion. I say, follow your identity because passion is involved in identity. What's also involved as personality values, experiences, your whole life, all summed up in one semester with the industry. And then we take all that information and put it into three desired paths, three careers that would make sense for the individual.

So when they go to college, they are more. Confident in what they want to be doing. They'll get way better grades. They won't have as near as much anxiety or depression or fear of the future. And there's [00:04:00] just an enormous amount of, of success. So that's, that's what we do.

Mike: [00:04:06] That's awesome. It, to me, it's almost like, sounds like a structured gap yea...

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2 Cent Dad Podcast - Return to "traditional' with Tex
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12/02/20 • 27 min

Tex joins us to talk about re-igniting his marriage through a return to more "traditional" roles. Hitting on the "dom/sub" relationship he has with his wife and his journey to help young men lead better.

Where to find Tex?

Transcription below (May contain typos...):

Mike: [00:00:00] [00:00:00] today we got texts on the show. Texas is from Texas, he's an author. Um, and he writes a lot about masculinity and about, um, I think the Renaissance of, uh, or the resurgence of masculinity that we're seeing in the world today.

Um, in some of these circles, you know, it's kind of under the, the mainstream radar, but it's, it's a response to what's going on and, and texts. I love. The stuff that you put out and I love your story and I'm excited to have you share it with my audience, man.

Tex: [00:00:28] Well, thank you for having me on. I appreciate it.

Yeah,

Mike: [00:00:31] well, um, let's get into, uh, you know, one of the things I like to start sometimes when my podcast with interview with is, um, I'm curious because this is a fatherhood podcast. If a young young man came to you was married having their first kid and they said texts. I need some advice. I don't know what the hell I'm doing.

My wife is pregnant. What are some advice you can give me being a new dad?

Tex: [00:00:58] Be patient, um, [00:01:00] be, be, be loving and, um, realize there's no owner's manual and you're going to screw some stuff up and you're going to figure it out along the way. By the time you get to kid two and three and four, it's going to be so much easier.

And, um, you know, don't, don't worry about the fact that you think you can't afford a baby or a second or third. Um, no one can, so we just figure it out, you know, that's how we do it. And you realized that, um, when your wife does have this baby, she's going to go through some hormonal changes, right. As you know, as you're leading up to it during, and then right after, and she is going to be out of her mind and some things, and you're going to look at her and go, who is this woman sometimes.

Right. And, but that's going to happen. I mean, it happens to most people. And so, you know, hopefully you can avoid the whole post postpartum depression and all that stuff. Just be, just be kind. Be loving and, uh, and not saying be your slave. I'm not saying, you know, be her fetching boy, I'm just saying no, that her emotions are going to be all over the map [00:02:00] and it's up to you to be calm and to just be a little stoic and just love her when she needs to be loved.

Yeah.

Mike: [00:02:09] The perspective glasses you got to put on? I think I'm finally learning that after we were having our fifth, you know, pretty soon. And it's like, man, I'm finally learning that lesson. Okay. She's probably of

Tex: [00:02:19] five kids, man. Can't imagine five kids. Good Lord. I got three grandsons when they come down to visit twice at the beach this summer and.

After about where they were like eight days, both times. Right. And I'm like, Ooh, man, these guys are work. I forgot how much work this was. And they were like 12, 10 and seven. So they're, they're just constantly, even their motors are running the whole time. Right. So, uh, yeah, I realized I, that was the only thing I regret.

I didn't have enough kids, man. I only had, we stopped at two and I wish we'd had more. Now I look back at that and go, I, that was, uh, and, and what was it? It was, you know, stressful. Yeah, we were broke. We were poor. We were broke. And I managed to convince myself that having [00:03:00] more kids was a really, really bad idea.

And my wife and I were both in agreement of that. We're like, yeah, we're, we're done. I mean, yeah, she wasn't even 30. When she had our second kid, we could have had plenty of time to have, you know, at least one or two more. So

Mike: [00:03:13] that is funny that you, you rarely hear people say they, you hear people often say they wish they had more.

Not that they had too many, you know, it's often that

Tex: [00:03:24] it depends on if you got that one. That's totally screw up at age 40. Oh yeah. I wish I hadn't had that one. Oh, no, they don't say that. They don't say that they think that, but they don't say that. They'll say it. Somebody said the other day, um, one of my friends online.

So it's something about how amazing it was to be able to, uh, use your phone, to text message money to your kids. And I replied back. Yeah, well not when they're 36. No, that's not cool. That's right.

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2 Cent Dad Podcast - Startup Burnout with Ryan Vaughn
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11/30/20 • 61 min

"In other discipline, at some point you have someone working with you to take you to the next level. Every single professional athlete has a coach because they reached the limit of what they can do on their own." -Ryan Vaughn

If one of your employees or team members came to you and said they were feeling overwhelmed and overworked, needing a break, what would you do? Like any great leader you would listen to what they were going through and likely give them the time they needed to sort things out, and get back on track mentally. The issue as leaders is that we rarely do this for ourselves, and we should. Most leaders are burnt out on some level, and few invest in themselves in a way that gets them back to full speed.

Today's guest, Ryan Vaughn, talks about the burnout he experienced in his startup (VNN) and how he came to grips with it. He now helps founders that are dealing with similar issues in their own company.

Where to find Ryan:

Transcription below (may contain typos...):
Ryan:
[00:00:00] [00:00:00] I was swimming in the water to such a degree that I didn't realize that I was in the water.

Right. I just, I didn't realize that I was, I was. Playing such a role that it, that I actually was, I felt like this was just what you had to do.

Mike: [00:00:13] What would you do if one of your employees or one of your team members came to you and said they were stressed out, they were feeling overwhelmed. They felt like that was inhibiting their ability to do their job. Well, if you're actually a good leader, you would first listen to what they're going through and, and what that means for them. But then second, you would probably be pretty gracious with letting them have some time off to sort through some of the things so that they can come back to their a hundred percent capacity or potential.

And oftentimes as leaders, we see this with our direct reports or people in our team. But we don't extend that same grace to ourselves. We don't allow ourselves [00:01:00] to. Heal or to address those personal issues that were maybe experiencing when it comes to feeling overwhelmed or burnout. Um, as some might call it.

Well, that's exactly what I hit on today with Ryan Vaughn and the conversation we had about his startup and, and the journey over almost a decade, uh, of, you know, building a company and then dealing with burnout and trying to sort that out and. And now he helps founders do that and it helps founders, you know, sort out.

You know, levels of burnout and how to recover and return with their best, um, efforts for their business. So let's happen to interview with ryan

all right today on the podcast. I have Ryan Vaughn. Who's the founder of varsity news network. He is a recovering founder, I think is maybe the term that he would use, but, um, very successful startup here in grand Rapids, Michigan.

He's also a father. Um, welcome to the show, Ryan.

Ryan: [00:01:58] Thank you. Thanks for having me on Mike. It's [00:02:00] good to be here.

Mike: [00:02:01] Yeah, I, um, you know, obviously you and I have, um, met previously, uh, which is different from some guests that I have on, you know, I haven't met them and haven't had a personal relationship with them, but you started varsity news network, um, here in grand Rapids.

Um, Which is a tech startup and, you know, your journey in that is what I really want to hear and,

Ryan: [00:02:22] and unpack, because I

Mike: [00:02:23] think it's a, probably a familiar story for a lot of startup founders that, um, you know, go through this rush of the fundraising and then they get to a point where maybe they get burned out.

And, um, by me, they don't even know that they're burned out and then. In the midst of that, they're trying to be a dad. And that's where this podcast is really meant to, to talk about as well. So I was wondering if you could just start at the beginning, tell me a little bit about, um, how varsity news network came to be

Ryan: [00:02:51] and a little bit of that story and the origin.

Yeah. Um, yeah, so [00:03:00] I, I, uh, didn't have any sort of business background. Uh, you know, I, I got my degree in creative writing and was a fine arts kid for, you know, throughout most of my life. Although I did play sports wizard, which was maybe a little bit of a contradiction. Um, and, and started, uh, you know, after school I was working at a car dealership and I was the di...

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2 Cent Dad Podcast - Jason Calacanis

Jason Calacanis

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08/09/17 • 79 min

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2 Cent Dad Podcast - JD Graffam

JD Graffam

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07/03/19 • 43 min

Where to find JD:

Shownotes

(Content is summarized and paraphrased. Timestamps are approximate.)

00:20

JD Graffam:
- One of my boys doesn’t pee a lot
- One kid who’s really physical, and doesn’t want junk food. He wants salad and grilled chicken.
- The other kid only wants club crackers.
- The healthier kid pees like a racehorse

Mike Sudyk
You are a father of three, and a father to a ton of different companies. Tell me about yourself and Simple Focus.

JD:
- I started Simple Focus in 2009 because I had been moonlighting as a designer since college in 2000.
- I had a good day job, but I was making more money moonlighting than at my day job.
- It made more sense for me to leave. I had always wanted to be a business owner.
- I was fortunate that the business made money
- Now Simple Focus is a user experience firm, and also has a portfolio of SASS businesses. I also have various other business investments.
- Ten years later I have 11 different companies under Simple Focus and three kids.

6:30

MS:
So what are your kids ages?

JD:
Daughter in Kindergarten who is 6, and twin boys who are 4.5

MS:
Having those kids while you’re building your business, tell me about that, about the risk.

JD:
- I’m probably more courageous now with experience
- Someone asked if I would go back and do it all over again, and I said yes. If it were still ten years ago.
- Before I started my company an entrepreneurial person gave me some advice. He said you don’t have a family, and now’s the time that you can take a risk.
- You’re either born with a bug to be an entrepreneur or you’re not. If your kids need to see you take chances, then need to see their father be willing to compete. If it doesn’t work out, they need to see what it’s like.
- I don’t buy that early advice so much anymore...

MS:
The other risk is you have regret later.

JD:
- Sure, but zoom out and make it about more than just you.
- My father always has these great ideas, and he has an itch, but he and I are cut from a different cloth.
- Now he has a lot of “what if?”
- If you’re the kind of person who’s like, I’m going to do this or I’m not going to feel like I did everything I could. It’s also about setting the example for your children so they can see you chasing after your dreams.
- I’m assertive with my entrepreneurial spirit, but I’m also doing it for my dad.

13:00

MS:
When you talk about regret and fulfillment, I think that makes you a better dad and husband. If you’re full of “what ifs” you’re not operating at the efficiency you should be, and that’s going to cascade into other things...

JD:
- About a year ago we had to let some people go to save some costs in the business...and it was tough. I had to lay off my mother-in-law
- when the kids learn about this one day, we need to tell the truth and tell them business was tough.
- Those are important stories for them to have as reference points in their own careers.
- Because I was so careful about doing things the right way, I was able to go home at the end of the day and be present. I could leave work at work.

18:00

MS:
What are some times where you’ve seen those things out of balance? What are the pitfalls?

JD:
- I talk to my therapist about that regularly.
- I can lose my cool and grab my kid by the arm too hard, or raise my voice, and I feel terrible about those moments.
- The thing that gives me hope is something my therapist shared...she asked about what about when my parents did stuff like that? I asked my dad about those moments when he felt bad...my therapist said that kids are resilient, and you have to be consistent and show them love. Some of these moments will standout more to you than to the child.
- If you don’t show the step of conflict resolution, then they won’t understand that step.
- Not being perfect is ok, but they need to know for later in their lives how to resolve conflict with other people in their lives.

24:00

MS:
My wife’s parents were a little better at that than mine were, and recognize that in myself. My wife taught me to be able to resolve some of those conflicts.

JD:
- It’s important for the kids to be able to understand that it’s not about them.
- I’m 37 years old and I’m still trying to learn that with other people...if they snap it’s probably not about me.

27:30

MS:
You mentioned therapy, I wonder if you were reluctant to doing that at first...

JD:
- I’ve been go...

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