10 Lessons Learned

Dr Gay Hendricks and his wife Dr Kathlyn Hendricks have written 40+ books, trained thousands of coaches, appeared on Oprah, and hosted seminars around the globe. In this episode they share their lessons on how to "Create no blame zones, how to "Use body Intelligence" and why "Authenticity is sexy". Hosted by Duff Watkins.

Gay Hendricks, Ph.D., has been a leader in the fields of relationship transformation and bodymind therapies for more than 45 years. After earning his Ph.D. in counselling psychology from Stanford, Gay served as professor of Counselling Psychology at the University of Colorado for 21 years. He has written more than 40 books, including bestsellers such as Five Wishes, The Big Leap and Conscious Loving (co-authored with his co-author and mate for more than 35 years, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks), both used as a primary text in universities around the world. In 2003, Gay co-founded The Spiritual Cinema Circle, which distributes inspirational movies and conscious entertainment to subscribers in 70+ countries.

Gay has offered seminars worldwide and appeared on more than 500 radio and television shows, including OPRAH, CNN, CNBC, 48 HOURS and others. In addition to his work with The Hendricks Institute, Gay is currently continuing his new mystery series that began with The First Rule Of Ten.

Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D., BC-DMT*, is an evolutionary catalyst, contextual disruptor and freelance mentor who has been a pioneer in the field of body intelligence and conscious loving for fifty years. She describes her purpose: “I feel through to the heart with laser-love and evoke essence through deep play.” Katie is the co-author of twelve books, including the best-selling Conscious Loving, At The Speed of Life and Conscious Loving Ever After: How to Create Thriving Relationship at Midlife and Beyond. Passionate about the power of embodied integrity and full-spectrum presence, her work explores the how of consciousness and the structures and practices that befriend and transform fear into presence, relational authenticity and resonant collaboration. She specializes in translating concepts such as commitment into directly felt experiences that lead to new choices and creative engagement. Her unique coaching and leadership programs have generated hundreds of body intelligence and relationship coaches in the U.S. and Europe. She developed and led the unique Leadership and Transformation Training for 30 years, and is currently joining with her community through the Foundation for Conscious Living to create the Big Leap Online Programs. These online videos are designed to support people in coming home to presence, restoring resourcefulness and creating caring communities.

*Kathlyn earned a Ph.D. in Transpersonal Psychology and has been a Board Certified-Dance/Movement Therapist of the American Dance Therapy Association since 1975.

• Lesson 1: Knowing How To Commit And Recommit Is The Central Skill In Reaching Your Goals. 00:07:28
• Lesson 2: Create No-Blame Zones 00:11:51
• Lesson 3: Authenticity Is Sexy 00:18:37
• Lesson 4: Use Body Intelligence 00:26:30
• Lesson 5: Conscious Listening Creates Magic 00:33:10
• Lesson 6; Making And Keeping Agreements Creates Ease And Flow In Life 00:39:14
• Lesson 7: The One Central Problem In Life Is The Upper Limit Problem 00:45:17
• Lesson 8: Master The Shift From Fear To Presencey 00:50:18
• Lesson 9: Genius Emerges In The Space Of Appreciation. 00:54:29
• Lesson 10: Everything Can Be Resolved With Love And Willingness. 00:57:55

Dr Robert Lustig has fostered a global discussion of metabolic health and nutrition. He speaks with us abut why you should "speak to the ventriloquist and not the dummy", how "pleasure is not happiness", how "90% of the work is done in 10% of the time" and more. Hosted by Duff Watkins.

Dr. Robert Lustig is Professor of Pediatric Endocrinology at the University of California, San Francisco. Dr. Lustig has become a leading public health authority on the impact sugar has on fueling the diabetes, obesity and metabolic syndrome epidemics, and on addressing changes in the food environment to reverse these chronic diseases.

In his New York Times bestselling book Fat Chance: Beating the Odds Against Sugar, Processes Food, Obesity, and Disease, Robert documents both the science and the politics that have led to the current pandemic of obesity and chronic disease. In the Fat Chance Cookbook (available for free), Robert provides practical examples for applying healthy eating principles with recipes by Cindy Gershen.

Robert has fostered a global discussion of metabolic health and nutrition, exposing some of the leading myths that underlie the current pandemic of diet-related disease. He believes the food business, by pushing processed food loaded with sugar, has hacked our bodies and minds to pursue pleasure instead of happiness; fostering today’s epidemics of addiction and depression. Yet by focusing on real food, we can beat the odds against sugar, processed food, obesity, and disease. His latest book Metabolical weaves the interconnected strands of nutrition, health/disease, medicine, environment, and society into a completely new fabric by proving on a scientific basis a series of iconoclastic revelations.

Lesson 1: Self-soothing is required, since no one else will 10m 29s.

Lesson 2: Pleasure is not happiness — the more pleasure you seek, the more unhappy you get 13m 04s.

Lesson 3: Anxiety is excitement about the future; but the future never comes 19m 25s.

Lesson 4: You know more than everybody else, so be humbler than everybody else 24m 56s.

Lesson 5: Institutions don’t love you back 33m 11s.

Lesson 6: First-class people hire first-class people; second-class people hire third-class people35m 53s.

Lesson 7: Speak to the ventriloquist, not the dummy 37m 38s.

Lesson 8: 90% of the work gets done in 10% of the time 39m 14s.

Lesson 9: Marketing uses information to espouse your point of view; propaganda uses disinformation to espouse your point of view 40m 39s.

Lesson 10: There is only one dogma, and that is, there is no dogma 43m 08s.

Tommy Tomlinson is a Journalist, Author and Podcaster and tells us why "you should keep your word"; how "life is like baseball" and why shouldn't "spend time with jerks". Hosted by Duff Watkins

Tommy Tomlinson spent 15 years as a prize-winning local columnist for the Charlotte Observer. He writes for magazines including Sports Illustrated, Reader’s Digest, ESPN the Magazine, Southern Living, Our State and many others. He has also written for websites including Sports on Earth and ESPN.com.

His stories were chosen for the books “Best American Sports Writing 2012” and “America’s Best Newspaper Writing.” In 2005, he was a finalist for the Pulitzer Prize in commentary. He has also taught writing at Queens University in Charlotte and at workshops across the country.

He is a graduate of the University of Georgia and was a 2008-09 Nieman Fellow at Harvard University.

Tommy hosts a podcast called SouthBound, which he started in fall 2017 in collaboration with WFAE, the NPR station in Charlotte. It’s an interview show where he talks to notable Southerners about how this part of the world shapes who they are and what they do.

Lesson 1: Keep your word. Do what you're say you're going to do. Be where you say you're going to be 09m 38s.

Lesson 2: Life is baseball. You'll take some losses 12m 40s.

Lesson 3: What works in the short term rarely works in the long term 15m 48s.

Lesson 4: Endings are more important than beginnings 18m 13s.

Lesson 5: Look up at the world, not down at your phone 21m 06s.

Lesson 6: The easiest way to get out of a rut is to change your routines 25m 45s.

Lesson 7: When you can choose, don't spend time with jerks 30m 42s.

Lesson 8: Nobody dies wishing they'd worked more36m 00s.

Lesson 9: Call home on your sister's birthday (h/t Jason Isbell) 38m 46s.

Lesson 10: Nobody does great work alone 41m 27s.

Jeffery is the founder of Professional Development Forum, and a regular host on 10 Lessons it Took Me 50 Years to Learn. Jeff tells us why we should "Run towards the fire", why "Finding fulfilment is more important than happiness", that "Nobody is thinking about you" and other important lessons. Hosted by Robert Hossary

Jeffery is the founder of Professional Development Forum, an organisation dedicated to help young professionals find fulfilment in the modern Australian workplace for more than 13 years. Since its inception, the forum has hosted multitudes of successful, remarkable, and inspiring leaders. Through this journey, Jeffery developed a passion for empowering culturally diverse talent and unlocking their leadership potential. Jeffery is a passionate advocate of genuine diversity, servant leadership and mentorship and engages actively both as a mentor and mentee. Jeffery has almost 20 years of experience working as a sales and strategy professional in the IT Industry looking after enterprise and government customers. He has lived in Taiwan and New Zealand before migrating to Sydney where he currently lives with his wife and two boys.

Lesson 1: Nobody is thinking about you. 04m 36s

Lesson 2: See the good in everything. 08m 05s

Lesson 3: Run towards the fire 12m 58s

Lesson 4: Don't lie to yourself. 17m 27s

Lesson 5: Finding fulfilment is more important than happiness. 24m 17s

Lesson 6: If you can’t argue from the other side, you haven’t understood the issue. 30m 15s

Lesson 7: Seek the truth and make it persuasive. 36m 37s

Lesson 8: Listen for context and meaning. 42m 01s

Lesson 9: Perfectionism is a Prison. 44m 10s

Lesson 10: Gratitude is the key to happiness.48m 58s

Robert Hossary has been in executive management for more than 30 years. He shares why "It's not who you know but who knows you", how to "become indispensable" and the "secret to success". Hosted by Siebe Van Der Zee.

Robert Hossary has been involved in international business for the past two decades. Since 2011 - 2018, Robert was the General Manager NSW / ACT for the American Chamber of Commerce in Australia (AmCham) and helped advise many Australian and US companies about their international expansion requirements. Prior to that, Robert Regional VP in the USA for a technology manufacturer and in 2008 was named in VSR Magazine’s 1st Annual Review & Outlook as a business leader in the USA’s Mobility Industry.

He has also worked in Taiwan with responsibility for Asia Pacific and the Middle East. With a background in Technology, Transport, Fashion and Healthcare, Robert has a wealth of experience to share.

Robert is a lifelong learner and has recently completed his MBA. "Keeping current is a must today" is his motto. He is dedicated to sharing his knowledge and working for the betterment of his community. He is also a Mr Perfect BBQ Host (a charity dedicated to men's mental health) for his community on the Central Coast of NSW in Australia. Robert is passionate about this podcast as well as all the other community and charitable work he does.

Lesson 1: It’s not who you know...It’s who knows you 07m 57s

Lesson 2: Respect is not earned Respect is lost 10m 33s

Lesson 3: You want to be indispensable? Become dispensable! 13m 39s

Lesson 4: You want bread? Go to a baker. 17m 30s

Lesson 5: you can learn from everyone...even if it how not to do something. 21m 05s

Lesson 6: The secret to success...24m 28s.

Lesson 7: never lie 28m 26s

Lesson 8: acknowledge your strengths but know that there is always someone that will know more 32m 42s

Lesson 9: knowledge is not power. The use of knowledge is powerful 37m 59s

Lesson 10: change is the only certainty so keep up. 39m 45s