"Forgiveness"

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05/19/20 • 48 min

What does it mean to truly forgive? In this episode, Lawrence and Male-Rose open the show discussing the meaning of forgiveness. We apologize and receive apologies daily, but every apology does not come with genuine remorse. Apologies without changed behaviors can come across as flat and insincere, leading to resentment and anger. Forgiveness is the only way to move from these feelings, but whose responsibility is forgiveness? The person receiving the apology has a choice; they can hang on to the pain and think about revenge, or they can let it go. Male-Rose and Lawrence continue on to discuss the power of intention, how maturity changes forgiveness, and being impulsive. Forgiveness in 2020 does not look like what it did 30 years ago. In a time when our lives are highly visible because of the power of the internet, our mistakes can feel even more permanent. It can be difficult to apologize and forgive when you feel a tension between who you were and who you are. It is even easier to be reminded of your mistakes with social media. This can lead us to internalized shame. Stay tuned as Lawrence and Mel-Rose discuss coping with shame, cancel culture, and the impact of forgiving yourself. Reach out to Lawrence and Male-Rose @1900fatherhood and tell them your feelings and experiences with forgiveness In this Episode: ● What does true forgiveness look like? [ 5:00 ] ● Unpacking your mistakes [ 14:00 ] ● Apologies [ 18:50 ] ● Letting things go [ 23:35 ] ● The impact of forgiving yourself & cancel culture [ 31:30] ● What does forgiveness look like in 2020? [ 40:10 ] Links Mentioned: ● Follow us on Instagram at @1900fatherhood

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"Discipline and Punishment"

How were you disciplined as a child? In this episode, Lawrence and Male-Rose talk discipline. They open the show discussing life with newborns and the world's fastest phone interview. Then, the guys dive deep into how they were raised and disciplined. Plus, they explain how scents can trigger memories. For instance, if we smell something, it can cause pain in our body or even create a flashback. We forget that the five senses are ultra-powerful memory banks. When things trigger our senses, we can remember our disciplines. The word "trigger" is a buzzword these days. Getting "trigged" means we are taken back to a place in our heads – which will lead us down a path, and we can tell that story. Later, Lawrence and Male-Rose explain how they want to raise and discipline their children. It's necessary to be physical with your children. There is a place in this world for physicality: when, where, and why? We need to teach our children how to defend themselves; we should all know how to protect ourselves. Plus, our children should understand that are repercussions for doing different things. A parent will not react the same way a stranger will – that's part of discipline as well. Discipline needs to instill what the consequences are for the child's behavioral actions. There is a place to talk and there is a time to guide. There is also a place to get physical. However, we should give our children a fair chance – they should be able to hit back because they aren't helpless. There isn't a lot to be gained from bending over and getting beaten – your children will become numb to it. If there's a ritual, it becomes some sort of mental mind game. We should keep communication as open as possible. Part of this means explaining ourselves to our children. Plus, it will help in the long run with their lives. Having communication with your children will affect their relationships with teachers, doctors, and strangers. Children look at the parent as an example. If your child cannot say something to their parent, then who can they talk to? Stay tuned as Lawrence and Male-Rose speak about disciplining with your spouse and the importance of being on the same page. In this Episode: