How Niceness Leads to Dis-ease

Season 2 Episode 23 we step into why so many of us are nice and how this is impacting us on many levels, including the biological level. Jessi shares her journey into niceness and revelas her personal opinion on the millenial generation's hang ups around niceness and the deep need for real one on one conversations, despite our many diverse viewpoints. She reviews how to healthfully hold your ground physically when in an overactivating situation, like saying no or vocalizing a need or a differing opinion. Jessi shares her observations from life, clinical practice and favorite expert and answers the question - why is it that so many nice people develop dis-ease? This is a deeply personal share and one that is foundational to the Authentic Calm Method and all of Jessi's work. It's not one you will want to miss!

Topics discussed:

1. Why are we nice?
2. Why are the nice humans the ones to deveop disease.
3. How we can step out of niceness and live authentically and healthfully.

Episode quotes

"What does it mean to be nice and how does this impact your body? As a human, but especially as a sensitive. I'm just going to give it all to you in one sentence, maintaining your niceness is the path to disease. Let's talk about this. So first of all, why are you nice? Why is it that you feel you have to always be nice and what is nice?"

"God does not ask us to be nice. God does not ask us to repress emotions, opinions, perceptions, and experiences. God does ask us to step into other people's shoes and to be kind. But he also, and I personally connect with God as a, he as a little side note. But. God also, you know, asks us to have healthy boundaries."

"So you can be respectful. You can be kind, you can be loving, you can be giving, you can be conscientious. You can be thoughtful. You can be aware, you can be intelligent. All these things you can be without being nice. Without repressing. Now you may have many conversations that are uncomfortable because within our beautiful country here, we are quite diverse in our view set."

"I of course experienced the world differently than most people. And as a result of this experience, a lot of rejection around any sort of expression of my experience or my needs, I received the message and owned the message and absorbed the message that I was too much and that I was drama and that I was selfish."

"Why is it that the nicest piece, but people are always the ones that seem to get sick. Why is that rarely, do you see the cranky, bitchy bastardly individuals actually die young?"

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