Emotions in Harmony

Do you have doubts when pricing your services? On this mini episode of #AnswersWithDrCarmen we tackle an issue that many entrepreneurs and freelancers have. And with some tips and the right info, you'll start making the money you trully deserve.

Today in #AnswersWithDrCarmen, a question that gives us a lot to think about romantic relationships. Do you also have a question for Dr. Carmen? Let us know in the comments!

Should we congratulate men for fulfilling their role as parents?

Years ago it was not expected for a man to change a diaper, prepare a baby's bottle, or even fulfill their role as a parent in general. This was, and still is, one of many problems couples can have when having a baby. But thanks to a change in mentality and beliefs in some communities, men are starting to assume the role of fatherhood with harmony.

And it's such a good change!

In this episode Dr. Roman talks with Dr. Melvin Varghese about the importance of men being present in their child's lives and fulfilling their roles as a complete father figure.

Dr. Varghese was born in Kerala, India; he immigrated to the USA with his family in order to have a better life. In 2004 he completed a Bachelor in Psychology and after 5 years, a 120 page dissertation, and over 3,000 hours of counseling, he graduated with PhD.

In 2015 he launched the first episode of his Podcast “Selling the Couch” which now has passed 175,000 downloads and has listeners in over 65 countries.

Dr. Carmen Roman is a dedicated clinical psychologist who helps parents, families, and community leaders who have suffered from trauma, anxiety or stress to manage their emotions, guiding them to a harmonious life.

This week you'll learn:

• How do men feel when men get involved in their children’s lives?
• Reasons why they don't get involved
• How can we get parents to work as a team?
• How can we integrate men into parenthood?

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Sexual abuse: Healing as a family with love and respect Do you know someone who suffered a sexual abuse? Maybe a family member? Or even yourself? In this episode we’re talking about the family perspective, how they react to such a sensitive topic and how they can heal and recover from a sexual abuse as a family. Dr. Carmen Roman talks about this important topic and more with Dr. Lydiana Garcia. With such a sensitive topic, it is important to be careful about getting information from trusting sources, which is why these two experts are here today. They offer simple definitions of the emotions the parents can feel, the reactions that other family members have and share some helpful tips that will help your family heal from this situation. Dr. Lydiana is a very passionate psychologist from Puerto Rico who works with adults and families who struggles with their teenagers; she also provides help to the families that struggles with domestic violence and child abuse. She has a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology from the Interamerican University in Puerto Rico and offers psychological assessment. What will you learn in this episode? • Common emotional responses of the parents • How family members react to this topic • Changes in the family after a sexual abuse case • Common mistakes when the family tries to help the victim • Daily habits that can help the family heal and recover • Tips for the parents that are looking for support Watch in FB Live: Sexual abuse: healing as a family with love and respect https://www.facebook.com/DraCarmenRoman/videos/1360256067454561/ Abuso sexual: sanando en familia con amor y respeto https://www.facebook.com/DraCarmenRoman/videos/1354918141321687/ Resources: • “When your child has been molested: A parents’ guide to healing and recovery” by Kathryn Brohl y Joyce Case Potter https://amzn.to/2JybupF • “Helping your child recover from sexual abuse” by Caren Adams and Jennifer Fay https://amzn.to/2HCfYz5 • “Finding sunshine after the storm” by Sharon A. McGee and Curtis Holmes https://amzn.to/2HCZVgg • “Trauma-proofing your kids” by Peter A. Levine y Maggie Kline https://amzn.to/2JDepNN • The National Child Traumatic Stress Network https://www.nctsn.org/ Connect with Dr. Lydiana García: • Website: http://drlydianagarcia.com/ • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drlydianagarcia/ Connect with Dr. Carmen Roman: • Website: www.emotionsinharmony.com • Email her at: [email protected] • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DraCarmenRoman/ • Twitter: https://twitter.com/DraCarmenRoman • YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/cafecitovirtual Looking for ideas for a gift? Visit Dr. Carmen’s recommendations in amazon https://www.amazon.com/shop/dracarmenroman

The topic of today’s episode of Emotional Harmony is the characteristics of couples that last. Fostering the admiration, trust, and acceptance in your relationship depends on having enriching conversations and practicing social etiquette with your partner.

Healthy couples demonstrate affection with both words and actions, ensuring that both partners receive love as they desire it. It is important to differentiate your roles as partners from your roles as parents, and genuinely and intentionally take care of your partner in both roles. A practical way to take care of your partner is to do something special for them every day, no matter how small. Be sure you set aside time to have 20-30 minutes of meaningful conversation every day, and keep the excitement of fresh love alive through dedicated times for romance. I recommend that couples visit a therapist together several times a year to maintain the open lines of communication

There are seven keys to having enriching conversations with anyone, but especially with your partner:

1. Take turns speaking
2. Try to listen and understand
3. Show compassion
4. Do not give unsolicited suggestions
5. Express your support of your partner and validate their emotions
6. Look at the situation from your partner’s perspective and practice empathy
7. Be affectionate, physically and verbally

In addition to conducting enriching conversations, there are a few specific social etiquette mannerisms to pay close attention to in maintaining or building a healthy relationship with your partner. First, realize that there are some things about your partner that will never change and you knew about these things when you chose to be in a relationship with them. Knowing this, accept you are the source of your own happiness and you can choose not to allow these things to diminish your happiness. Second, respect your partner’s privacy and be courteous to them. We usually let our guard down with our partners and do not think to say “please,” “thank you,” and “I’m sorry” to them as much as we do to our neighbors and coworkers.

It is important that you always admire something about your partner, and you will sometimes have to foster that admiration. Eliminate false modesty in your relationship – accept your partner’s compliments and give them sincere compliments in return. Be sure to create your own space to develop your individual hobbies and passions, as well as relationships with your friends. This will keep you an interesting and maturing person, not relying on your partner to share every experience with you. Another practice that is essential for the health of your relationship is doing things that make you happy – even laugh! It is especially good for your children to see that their parents enjoy being around each other and find the time to be happy even in the rush of the morning routine. Finally, practice self-appreciation. If you do not even like yourself, it is difficult to allow your partner to express genuine praise to you.

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