The Happier Approach: Quieting your High Functioning Anxiety
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Episode 139: Why Bother, What's the Point, and What To Do Next with Jennifer Louden
The Happier Approach: Quieting your High Functioning Anxiety
06/25/20 • 54 min
Why bother?
Who cares?
It will never change...
Have you ever caught yourself uttering those words?
Perhaps you’ve said these to yourself when considering a career change or launching a creative project or even making a self-care plan. I know I have!
These questions can also be considered along the lines of what’s happening across the nation right now with social justice and equality.
Sometimes, we are so afraid of taking imperfect action and doing it wrong that we simply don’t bother at all. Instead, we stay stuck by not taking action at all and rehashing the ways we did it wrong in the past.
But we can do it differently.
We can take small, measured, imperfect action.
We can make progress toward desire.
Today’s guest, Jennifer Louden, is an expert in doing it differently. She is a personal growth pioneer and author of Why Bother?, helping readers discover the desire for what’s next in their lives. As an entrepreneur and educator, Jennifer has offered women’s retreats for over 25 years and reaches over 20,000 subscribers weekly.
Listen to the full episode to hear:
- Why Jennifer was inspired to write the book, Why Bother?
- How she realized that “holding her mistakes close” was actually holding her back
- How our past—especially without family of origin—affects our current lives
- Why it’s important to go beyond the idea that all of our creative endeavors must be useful or practical (and how that believe holds us back from trying new things)
Learn more about Jennifer:
- JenniferLouden.com
- Jennifer’s Book, Why Bother?
- Instagram: @jenlouden
- Facebook: Jennifer Louden
Learn more about Nancy:
Visit: https://NancyJaneSmith.com
Learn More About Self Loyalty School: https://selfloyaltyschool.com
Episode 137: Redefining Self-Care and Reclaiming Sovereignty with Mara Glatzel
The Happier Approach: Quieting your High Functioning Anxiety
06/11/20 • 54 min
A hike through the woods with your nearest and dearest and a picnic lunch.
A rambunctious night of games, drinks, and pizza with friends.
Sleeping in and having coffee in bed, followed by a granola bowl on the back deck.
A chance to read your new fiction book, some yard work, and a barbeque on the grill.
Canceling plans to go canoeing because you just don’t feel good and need to rest.
Staying in bed all day, watching movies.
We have a set definition of what self-care should look like. But the reality is that any and all of the above ideas can be self-care!
For those of us with High Functioning Anxiety, we struggle with self-care. I mean, soul-nourishing, true downtime, really-giving-back-to-ourselves kind of self-care.
And yet our lack of self-care keeps us stuck in over-functioning and a lack of self-loyalty.
Sound familiar?
That’s why this month we’re talking about what keeps you stuck and how self-care (and lack thereof!) is one of those things.
My guest today is Mara Glatzel, MSW, an intuitive coach, writer, and podcast host who helps perfectionists and people pleasers reclaim their sovereignty. She’s a queer, femme wife and mother of two, recovering control freak, and a human who deeply understands the impulse to relegate her needs to the bottom of a very long to-do list in an attempt to prove her worth.
Mara also teaches everything she knows about identifying, honoring, and advocating for your needs in her 9-month online program, Tend. You can access her free training Revive: Self-Care That Works, hang with her on Instagram, or tune in to her weekly podcast, Needy.
Listen to the full episode to hear:
- Her tagline redefining self-care and reclaiming sovereignty and what that means to her
- How to prioritize yourself when you have overly prioritized others
- How self-accountability is an act of self-love
- Why “needs” is such a bad word in our society and how she is reclaiming needs as a good thing
Learn more about Mara:
Visit: https://NancyJaneSmith.com
Learn More About Self Loyalty School: https://selfloyaltyschool.com
Episode 136: Learning the Practice of Joy with Danielle Brooker
The Happier Approach: Quieting your High Functioning Anxiety
06/04/20 • 55 min
“It isn’t that bad. I’m just whining,” you tell yourself.
“I shouldn’t be so negative. I have somuch to be positive about in my life.”
Man, oh, man! We really beat ourselves up for not being able to stick with positive thoughts all the time. The minute we start to feel negativity—like fear, anger, or doubt—we’re trained to step in with positivity.
Yet anger, sadness, and doubt have things to teach us. If we skip right over these “negative emotions,” we never get to experience life on a deeper level.
Today, I’m thrilled to talk with Danielle Brooker who helps busy, always-on women ditch stress and reclaim their joy. She owns The Daisy Patch, where she offers private coaching and group masterminds as well as digital courses. She also hosts the podcast, Let It Shine, and is a Forbes.com contributor.
In this episode, Danielle and I totally geek out about the differences between joy, happiness, and positive thinking. There is so much good stuff here and I can’t wait for you to hear it.
Listen to the full episode to hear:
- What the difference is between joy and happiness
- How joy and positive thinking work together yet how they are completely different
- How you can be uncertain and feel really bad and at the same time experience joy
- Why she refers to her online home as The Daisy Patch
Learn more about Danielle:
- The Daisy Patch Website
- Instagram: thedaisypatchcoaching
- LinkedIn: Danielle Brooker
Learn more about Nancy:
Podcast Recommendations:
Visit: https://NancyJaneSmith.com
Learn More About Self Loyalty School: https://selfloyaltyschool.com
Episode 135: The Myth Of The "Right Way"
The Happier Approach: Quieting your High Functioning Anxiety
05/28/20 • 15 min
Unsurprisingly, many of my clients live for “doing it right.”
For them, there is nothing more amazing as hearing: Yes, you’re doing it right. In fact, one of the most popular phrases I hear from clients is: I did okay, right? They’re always looking for affirmation that they did it right.
So why is the need to do things the “Right Way” such a common experience of people with High Functioning Anxiety?
Doing it right, following the rules, and being a good girl keeps us from criticism. And growing up—either in our family of origin or through school and church—we learned that following the rules earns us LOTS of praise.
Not only that, but it protects us from the anxiety of not knowing what to do next. It keeps us safe—at least that’s what we convince ourselves of.
What rules have you created for yourself? Let’s explore this together in this week’s episode and find out what we can do about it.
Listen to the full episode to hear:
- Why there is no such thing as doing things the “right way”
- How the quest for doing things the “right way” leads to judging others
- What we miss out on when we constantly try to do things the “right way”
- How curiosity is key if we’re trying to understand why we’re afraid of getting things wrong
Links:
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During the pandemic, I'll be offering a mini version of my Voxer work. Nothing too intense. Nothing too coachy. Just a chance for you to vent, talk about what's most pressing, and have a neutral third party on the phone for right now.
I'm calling it Coach In Your Pocket: Just Checking In Version.
Rather than a 3-month commitment to you completely regroup on your anxiety, Coach In Your Pocket: Just Checking In Version is a simple monthly program geared to help you stay sane during this time.
Visit: https://NancyJaneSmith.com
Learn More About Self Loyalty School: https://selfloyaltyschool.com
Episode 134: How Anxiety and Perfectionism Can Get In The Way Of Creativity with Beryl Young
The Happier Approach: Quieting your High Functioning Anxiety
05/21/20 • 47 min
I have almost always loved it and thought to myself, I want to do that more! And then months, years pass before I actively pursue something creative. Why?
My Monger’s message of perfectionism and practicality always gets in the way:
“She tries but she has no talent”.
“What are you going to do with it? You are going to have all these art projects and nowhere to put them.”
“You have to drag all the art supplies out and spend MORE money on creative. Get real.”
I get in my own way.
This is why I wanted to talk to someone who deals with High Functioning Anxiety and is still able to pursue creativity for a living.
Today, I am talking with Beryl Young of Momtography. She is a mom, photographer, teacher, and creator of popular classes to support parents in capturing the life they love. A former elementary school teacher by day, she’s taken her experience in education and photography and brought a message of creativity, resilience, connection, and fulfillment for camera lovers young and old.
Beryl’s work has been featured on The Huffington Post, PicMonkey, Mpix, and Digital Photography School. She’s taught hundreds of moms around the globe how to use their camera to its fullest potential and connect in deeper ways to the people they love most in the world.
Listen to the full episode to hear:
- When Beryl realized that she had High Functioning Anxiety and how it shows up in her life
- How she got around the perfectionism that can get in the way of creativity and gave herself permission to create
- How creativity helps her manage her anxiety
- What self-care looks like to her
Beryl’s Links:
- Momtogtraphy
- Free Capture What Matters Workshop
- Instagram: @momtographyceo
- Understanding Girls With AD/HD by Kathleen G. Nadeau
Nancy’s Links:
- Coach in Your Pocket
- Live Happier Website
- Instagram:
Visit: https://NancyJaneSmith.com
Learn More About Self Loyalty School: https://selfloyaltyschool.com
Episode 133: The Value of Self-Loyalty
The Happier Approach: Quieting your High Functioning Anxiety
05/14/20 • 10 min
Loyalty to their mothers, fathers, spouses, kids, friends, work, and the world in general.
They are the listeners, supporters, lovers, givers, cheerleaders, and fans. They are the caregivers for their aging parents. They are the backbone of their families, relationships, and workplaces.
The dark side of this loyalty to others is the exhaustion, the never-ending to-do list, the never feeling good enough, whole enough, satisfied enough.
The anxiety.
All this month we are exploring the unique values of someone with High Functioning Anxiety and how they silently struggle with these values.
Last week we talked with Brittany Berger about anxiety and productivity. This week I am talking about how those of us with HFA value loyalty.
Here is the irony: some of the kindest, gentlest, giving people in the world never quite feel kind, gentle, or giving enough.
Want to know why?
They are so busy devoting themselves to make sure their family and friends are heard, supported, and cared for they bypass themselves.
They have been trained to care for everyone else but themselves.
This is something I have struggled with personally. I love caring for people. I pride myself on my loyalty, I love being there for those closest to me, and I know it has come at a price. A price of exhaustion and stress.
Today I want to talk about how to get off that hamster wheel of stress.
Listen to the full episode to hear:
- When we don't have loyalty to ourselves we are constantly looking outside of ourselves for direction.
- How the Monger lies to us by saying “take care of everyone else and then you will have peace.”
- How we can stretch our loyalty to include ourselves and not just others.
Links:
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During the pandemic, I'll be offering a mini version of my Voxer work. Nothing too intense. Nothing too coachy. Just a chance for you to vent, talk about what's most pressing, and have a neutral third party on the phone for right now.
Visit: https://NancyJaneSmith.com
Learn More About Self Loyalty School: https://selfloyaltyschool.com
Episode132: Working Brighter In The Hustle Culture with Brittany Berger
The Happier Approach: Quieting your High Functioning Anxiety
05/07/20 • 50 min
During this social distancing time, I keep hearing people say that we can finally stop hustling and use this time to get in touch with ourselves. The problem with that thinking is it implies that hustling is something that was forced upon us.
But in reality, hustling is something we choose to do as a coping mechanism against our uncomfortable feelings of sadness, grief, anger, doubt, and uncertainty.
For those of us with High Functioning Anxiety, these mechanisms can lead to even greater levels of anxiety. We all rail against hustle culture while at the same time actively embracing it. This coping mechanism has become a valued cultural norm to point where we even glorifying it.
So what would it be like to stop embracing the hustle culture altogether?
My guest today has raised a one-woman battle against hustle culture and her addiction to it. Brittany Berger is the founder of Work Brighter, a digital media company that helps productive unicorns go beyond working smarter to a version of productivity that makes room for “unproductive” things like rest, self-care, and fun.
She started Work Brighter after 5 years running content marketing in high-stress startups that prioritized hustle, growth, and scaling over self-care and mental health. Now that she's changed her own mindset, she spends her time helping other high achievers define balance for themselves, advocating for mental health awareness, and dancing...always dancing.
That Brittany walks her talk which is one reason this interview is so amazing. She believed the hustle culture lie with all of her being and shares not only her burnout story but what she has created and the values she lives by now.
Listen to the full episode to hear:
- Brittany’s transformational story of burnout with all the nitty-gritty details
- What self-care really looks like
- Why it is so hard to unhook that belief that we can rest only when we have earned it
- Practical tips for when your to-do list is 500 things long and your boss is breathing down your throat
- How to get out of the cycle of pushing during the week and collapsing on the weekend
Brittany’s Links:
- Work Brighter
- Instagram @workbrighter
- Twitter @workbrighterco
Nancy’s Links:
Visit: https://NancyJaneSmith.com
Learn More About Self Loyalty School: https://selfloyaltyschool.com
Episode 131: The Surprising Connection Between Avoidance and Anxiety
The Happier Approach: Quieting your High Functioning Anxiety
04/30/20 • 16 min
Maybe I got an email? I haven’t checked for 10 minutes.
My glass of what is almost empty. Let me go downstairs for a refill. Stretching would be good right now, anyway.
Well, that break took a lot longer than I had planned. I got sucked into pulling some weeds while talking to my husband and then decided to make a snack.
Oh geez, I forgot to actually refill my glass.
Okay. Back at my desk. Before I start writing, let me check Instagram one more time. Anything new in my inbox?
This was me trying to write this podcast episode–avoiding and procrastinating. For me, this is all part of the process.
All this month we have been talking about avoidance and anxiety. We talked with Jaquette Timmons about avoidance and money, Erica Drewry about our relationship with food, Bailey Parnell about social media, and Andrea Owen about avoidance, anxiety, addiction.
Today I want to wrap the month up and talk about the connection between avoidance and High Functioning Anxiety and give you some insight into High Functioning Anxiety vs Low Functioning Anxiety.
Avoidance and anxiety go hand in hand but you might be surprised to learn how.
Listen to the full episode to hear:
- What the differences are between High Functioning Anxiety and Low Functioning Anxiety
- How there really isn’t one type of anxiety that is better than the other
- How knowing where you fall really helps with coping better
- And how to avoid unhealthy coping mechanisms that we often develop around our anxiety
Links:
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During the pandemic, I'll be offering a mini version of my Voxer work. Nothing too intense. Nothing too coachy. Just a chance for you to vent, talk about what's most pressing, and have a neutral third party on the phone for right now.
Visit: https://NancyJaneSmith.com
Learn More About Self Loyalty School: https://selfloyaltyschool.com
Episode 127: Anxiety, Avoidance, and Money With Financial Behaviorist Jacquette Timmons
The Happier Approach: Quieting your High Functioning Anxiety
04/02/20 • 44 min
They avoid.
Whether through food, alcohol, social media, or money–we avoid.
All this month I am talking with experts in these four areas of avoiding. We’re pulling back the curtains on our avoiding ways and how we can make small manageable changes to bring intention to our lives.
We're kicking this off this month talking with Jacquette Timmons about money.
Money and avoidance go hand in hand. Money is a very loaded topic for people in general, but especially those with High Functioning Anxiety. We avoid dealing with our money. We avoid talking about money. We engage in overspending or being overly controlling about money.
All of these patterns come from one place – avoiding our intentions and feelings about money.
Jacquette Timmons is a national investment expert and financial coach. She is the founder of Sterling Investment Management, a New York-based investment education and financial coaching firm. She has worked in the investment industry for 23 years and conducts numerous personal finance and stock market investing workshops.
This conversation couldn’t have come at a better time. While I think any time we can intentionally talk about money is good, right now, with the current state of the world, this conversation is even more relevant.
I learned so much from Jacquette in our conversation. We laughed and shared openly and honestly about the topic of money. She has a unique and refreshing approach to money management – one that we can all benefit from to ease our shame and anxiety around money.
Listen to the full episode to hear:
- Why Jacquette’s approach to money management is so unique
- What you can do to ease some of your shame and anxiety around money
- Why we avoid when it comes to money and what we can do about today
- What the role our family of origin plays in our approach to money
Jacquette’s Links:
- Jacquettetimmons.com
- Twitter: @jacqmtimmons
- Instagram: @jacquettemtimmons
Nancy’s Links:
Visit: https://NancyJaneSmith.com
Learn More About Self Loyalty School: https://selfloyaltyschool.com
Episode 145: How Embracing Your Humanness Can Lead to More Success with Tara McMullin
The Happier Approach: Quieting your High Functioning Anxiety
08/06/20 • 47 min
It’s part of the deal.
We’re not going to get everything right, every time.
But we learn as we go.
That’s what being human is all about.
For some, being human—the messiness of it—is totally anxiety-provoking. It makes things feel harder to do and accomplish. But what if embracing your humanness could actually result in more ease and more success... with a whole lot less anxiety to boot? Is it possible?
Not only is it possible, but it is also achievable through tiny, small changes we can make to our everyday lives. And all this month, I’m going to go deep into how to embrace our humanness and discuss what it means to be human.
Today, I’m kicking off the Being Human theme with one of my business mentors, Tara McMullin.
We talk about how for Tara bringing her humanness into her life has made some huge shifts with her business, relationships, and mental health.
Tara is a podcaster, small business community leader, and speaker. She’s been helping small business owners find what works for them for over a decade. Tara’s goal is to push past the hype so she can better facilitate candid conversations about doing business in the New Economy.
Listen to the full episode to hear:
- How Tara’s quest to be more human has enhanced and enriched her life
- How hearing about High Functioning Anxiety gave Tara some real ah-ha’s
- The relationship between depression and HFA
- Tara’s morning ritual that helps her with her HFA
Learn more about Tara McMullin:
Learn more about Nancy:
Visit: https://NancyJaneSmith.com
Learn More About Self Loyalty School: https://selfloyaltyschool.com
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