Running Wild with Christine

Ooof.. What to say! This one is so very near and dear to me. Bryan is my work husband. We have spent on average 14h/day together for most of 2019 and over the course of it, we have gotten to know each other quite well. It quickly became clear to me that he had a story to tell and so this day was a long time coming.

In this witty and vulnerable episode, we uncover what it's like to be in an emotionally, and at times physically, abusive relationship in a small town, from a male perspective (in a heterosexual relationship.) His story, though not often covered, is indicative of the pervasive and stigmatized narrative of mental and emotional abuse within toxic masculinity.

In this episode, we retrace the twists and turns of Bryan's life from his small town in Nova Scotia, to the self-discovery of his own potential and break from toxic patterns.

TW: emotional, physical and sexual abuse.

Topics covered: mental health, codependence, telling mom about oral sex, dating in a small town, substance abuse, sexual bucket lists, moderation, emotional baggage, self-doubt, family patterns, anger, talking about feelings(!!!), self-worth, the irrational fear of travelling, the film industry life and many, many hilarious stories.

I hope you enjoyed this refreshing dose of friendship and sharing. I hope it inspires you to spend some time with a friend and open up. Maybe it even sparks the guts to leave the person you're with, or stops you from consistently talking yourself down, or shuts the voices in your head up for a second. I wish that for you.

Take a minute and breathe. There's a whole wide world and a whole new life on the other side, and it's all one small step at a time. I believe in ya.

As always, you have my heart.

C. xoxo

WELCOME TO EPISODE 69!!! Woot woot, wink wink. I can't think of a better person to feature than Javay da BAE! She's the millennial sexpert you need. If you haven't already come across her insta feed or her youtube channel, this is the perfect introduction to this badass.

Today we get to know Javay's impulsive decisions that led to her incredible journey to her Master's in Sexuality Studies at Widener. She hopes to become a sex therapist with a focus on supporting sex workers and of course I had to have her on the pod!

Topics: legitimacy as a black woman, moving across the country to make your goals happen, the entertainment industry, working out financials for grad school, LGBTQ sex education, creating inclusive and comprehensive sex therapy!!!, rage, sex work, the importance of visibility and support, sexualization of BIPOC, working within your own expectations and being gentle with oneself, rage & social justice, climate change and soooo much more.

Do check out her Facebook Page, Instagrams @javaydabae and @millennialsexpert and Twitter @JavaydaBAE. She ended up uploading a new post on Youtube about Sex vs. Gender!! See it here: buff.ly/2Imb33o

If you feel so inspired to help this gal get through grad school to spread the gospel on sex education, drop her some cash!!! Her Cash App is $JavaydaBAE and her Venmo @JavaydaBAE .

Thanks again for listening and I hope you learned something! USE YOUR VOICE! (Ps: Get Emily Nagoski's COME AS YOU ARE.)

Lots of love.

C, xox.

Welcome to the last episode of Season One of #RWWC!

This episode has been a long time coming and I am so glad we managed to make it happen.

Alix, my darling friend, is a ridiculously talented actor, voice-over artist, feminist, activist and recently, director! Her and I met at Cannes in serendipitous circumstances, and bonded over our fierceness. (Thanks Adam Lannon for bringing us all together.)

Her short-film She Lies Sleeping is currently in competition in Sci-Fi London’s 48h Short Film Challenge. Alix will also soon star as Mary Shelley in A Nightmare Wakes. Check out her IMDB here or @AlixWiltonRegan on Insta and Twitter.

In this vulnerable and emotionally-charged episode, we discuss: feeling like you never do enough, politics & the state of our society (based largely on a Western European critique), fake news vs. definitions of objective fact, privilege and unlearning, the necessity of all of us being “IN PROGRESS”, body image and the ultra-skinny industry requirements, gender diversity and imposter syndrome, and SO MUCH MORE.

This is for you. You, who has ever been told to “Shut up, (woman)” and haven’t let it stop you from speaking your truth.

I CANNOT SAY THIS ENOUGH: THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU. This has been an incredible year of learning, evolving, growing and unlearning. I love you and I can’t wait to bring better, stronger, deeper conversations to your ears in just a short couple of months.

From my grateful and loving heart,

your little C.

Xoxo

BONUS:

Angèle, Balance ton quoi, 2018 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hi7Rx3En7-k

Meet Maggie Anderson from the anti-club @GraceClubYvr. Tavia Cosper and Maggie started Grace Club as a space for feminists to come together to empower those in our communities to make positive and much needed change in the landscape of our civic, social, and economic advancement. They believe that the act of coming together in storytelling, and education, supports their mission, and creates new opportunities, ideas and conversations that will lead to greater healing, growth and prosperity for womxnkind.

Today Maggie came over to my actual living room for some much needed real talk. She starts by walking me through how the Trump election and the Women's March were the wakeup call she needed to step into the activist's shoes she'd always wanted to wear. We explore the creation of Grace Club and what happens at their events. We then move on to her personal experiences as an individual with feminism and inequality. Stick around until the end, because that's where the good stuff is.

Topics & TWs: "One can only preach to the choir for so long!" intersectionality & inclusion, personal growth, grief and suicide, drug addiction, storytelling as a tool for empathy and humanization, parenting for social change, privilege awareness, fear & shame, and the benefits of community and in-person sharing, to name just a few.

"The first thing you should know about me is that I'm not you. A lot more will make sense after that." Unknown.

Please do check out www.graceyvr.com if you are interested in a platform that welcomes everyone, whether you are just starting to delve into feminism, or whether you want to help them dig deeper into issues of social, economic and civic inequality.

Thank you for listening to this episode. We hope it raised some thoughtful questions about how you personally can make an impact in your own community. "What is it like to move in the world as you?"

As always, please follow, subscribe, support this podcast so I can keep investing in us, and our shared vulnerability as humans.

Shownotes & References:

"In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction" by Gabor Maté, MD

"Down to This: Squalor and Splendour in a Big-City Shantytown" by Shaughnessy Bishop-Stall

"Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths and Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype" by Clarissa Pinkola Estes

Hello my lovers! Welcome to 90-fucking-9! Meet Cam Fraser! He is a men's Sex Coach, as well as a Certified Sexologist, Counselor, Registered Yoga Teacher, Tantric Practitioner, and Workshop Facilitator. Do you think there's enough there to get us started? We cover his Australian upbringing, American college experience and journey into his current practice, before delving into the good stuff.

Topics: toxic masculinity, the relationship between early sex and binge drinking, the search for alternative models of masculinity and pleasure, not fitting in, sex ed, yoga for better sex, paying attention the your body, shame, Tantric Shaivism and Hatha Yoga, what it looks like to work with Cam, ejaculatory control, what is sex, statistics of sexuality, AND offering solutions past the criticism.

For more on Cam, go to cam-fraser.com or @thecamfraser on IG! Check out his services, his podcast and his super informational feed.

(Referenced in podcast: Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent and Jameela Jamil.)

Thank you SO MUCH for being around for episode 99! This is an incredible journey we are on, and I for one couldn't be more grateful!

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