Raising your Child on Purpose

Welcome to Raising Your Child on Purpose Podcast , where we delve into the ins and outs of parenting. I'm Ebiere, your host and parent coach, here to guide you through the journey of understanding and nurturing your child's behaviour and your connection with them.

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EPISODE OVERVIEW:

Today, we're tackling a topic that's gained significant popularity in the last 3 decades: Love Languages.
Many of us have heard about love languages in the context of adult relationships, but should we apply the same principles when it comes to our children?

In this episode, we'll explore why I choose not to use love languages with my kids

And what I do instead!

Why Love Languages Might Not Apply to Kids:

Love languages, as popularised by Dr. Gary Chapman, categorise how individuals prefer to give and receive love: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch.

Children's Developmental Stage:

One key reason I don't use love languages with my kids is because they're still developing their sense of self and emotional understanding.
Unlike adults, children's preferences and needs can fluctuate rapidly as they grow and explore the world around them.
Applying rigid love language categories to them may limit our understanding of their unique emotional expressions.

Fluidity of Love and Connection:

Another factor to consider is the fluid nature of love and connection in parent-child relationships. Love is multifaceted and dynamic, often expressed in ways that transcend predefined categories.
By pigeonholing our interactions with our kids into specific love languages, we risk overlooking the richness and spontaneity of the parent-child bond.

What’s my Alternative?:

Instead of relying on love languages, I advocate for a more holistic and intuitive approach to expressing love to our children. This involves actively listening to our children, observing their cues, and responding with empathy and authenticity. By attuning ourselves to their individual needs and preferences, we can nurture a deep sense of trust and connection that transcends any predefined framework.

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Until next time, remember: every moment with your child is an opportunity to grow together.

Warm regards,

Ebiere Parent Coach.

Join me in this episode where we break down the five crucial skills you need to elevate your parenting game in 2024.
We're delving into the heart of effective parenting by exploring

• A skill that opens the door to understanding your child's world,
• Another that fosters deep connections that last a lifetime;
• A third skill that helps create a secure environment for your children to thrive;
• A fourth that teaches you to go beyond words, building bridges and strengthening your parent-child bond.
• And a fifth skill that turns challenges into opportunities for growth and understanding.

This episode is your practical guide to honing these skills, creating a positive and resilient family dynamic.
Let's make 2024 the year you transform your parenting. Book a free call with me to begin your coaching journey: https://www.raisingyourchildonpurpose.com/booking-calendar/free-clarity-call

In this Episode, David Folaranmi tells his story of a 7 year addiction to hard drugs. He also explains what led to this addiction and how he became free from drugs. David explains that despite being raised in a christian home, this didn't prevent him from becoming addicted to drugs. David's compelling story is a must listen for parents, teachers, policy makers, counsellors and more. He emphasises the need for parents to gain knowledge and seek professional help to prevent addiction and treat people who are addicted to drugs.
David, his wife and team now run a foundation focused on Drug abuse prevention through education, treatment and enlightenment. They also provide advocacy for drug use policy reforms. Recently, the foundation started offering treatment to drug users abandoned by their families. So far they have treated 28 people in 3 years, helping them integrate back into society - for instance, in school, in jobs, business and reuniting them with their families. They have a drop in centre in Enugu.
Support his foundation by making a donation: https://davidfolaranmi.com/my-cause/
A bit about David:
David Folaranmi is a Christian and a fervent Lover of Jesus Christ. The recipient of several awards at home and abroad, David is a qualified Economist, a Public Speaker, a Writer and a Certified Counsellor with specialty in addiction and substance abuse recovery. Masters degree in Applied Social Psychology in view.... David earned his Economics degree over a decade ago from Covenant University and a Post graduate diploma in International Management from Brunel University, United Kingdom. David is a seasoned public servant but his interests lies within counselling, psychology, mental health issues, understanding behavioural patterns, addiction counselling and rehabilitation with an aim to provide a better life for youths and young adults. He is a strong advocate for drug abuse awareness and drug use policy reforms. He is a member of Association of Advocates Against Alcohol Harm in Nigeria (ASAAHN) Community Intervention Network on Drugs (CIND).
You can find out more about him here:
file:///Users/ebierebolu/Downloads/David%20Folaranmi%20Profile%20FA.pdf

In this Episode, Dr Wura Arowosegbe shares her challenging yet beautiful story of being raised by a single mum of 4 daughters. Her story takes you into what life can be like without a father present and how this impacted the family financially and emotionally. As an adult, the true impact on her world view, her self esteem and sense of identity begin to unravel and she begins her search for Abba. Join me in listening to this beautiful story which she has also written in a newly published book titled, Raised by Mama, Built by Abba. I would recommend this book for teens too!

Order your copy at www.builtbyabba.com
More about my guest:

Fondly referred to as Abba’s girl, Dr. Adediwura Arowosegbe is a speaker, writer and youth mentor. She is a crusader of the ‘Built by Abba’ message, spotlighting God as our life’s master builder. She leads the Built by Abba Youth Club and Building Beautiful Lives online community, platforms that encourages people to become their very best by acknowledging God’s intentionality about their lives, no matter what they have been through.

Wura is a researcher who loves to work with women and children. She advocates for improved care for mothers and their babies through her work with Birth Counts, a Maternal-Child Health Organization. Wura holds a Ph.D. in Medical Microbiology and Public Health from the Federal University of Agriculture, Abeokuta, Nigeria where she also spent some years lecturing undergraduate students. She is currently a graduate trainee at the University of Massachusetts Medical School, USA.

More about her on her website: www.wuraarowosegbe.com

I believe that in all of us are strengths, passions, talents and gifts that if realised and applied will make us better parents. We have areas of strength and success that if we applied the same principles to our parenting we would feel more confident and see huge improvements. We however separate the two areas, not realising the huge parallels. This episode sheds some light on the parallels between our areas of success and our parenting, if we only knew where to look.
In this Episode, I speak to the phenomenal Damilola Bode-Ogundipe, a Fitness Communicator, Coach, Speaker and Author with over 5 years experience of actively coaching and helping Mums and women in general make fitness an enjoyable and lasting lifestyle.
The founder of theFitMumHub-a wellness & fitness company whose vision is ‘Raising Fit & Healthy families,One Mum At A Time’-she has worked with over a thousand women to make fitness and healthy living an integral part of their lives . She teaches thousands daily via social media on how to build sustainable and realistic habits & routines that not only suit their lifestyles & preferences, but helps them achieve goals and keep their results .
A wife and mum of 2, she is passionate about helping Mums become their own family’s wellness coach, she has made it her life’s work to make this possible by making information,knowledge and resources readily available and easily understandable.