
15 Things That Make A Relationship Hot
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07/13/23 • 13 min
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What are the things that make a romantic relationship Hotter Than Ever? Sure there's chemistry and physical attraction (that's a given!) but there are so many other factors that make for a healthy, sexy, open connection between two conscious adults. Erin shares her opinion on how to turn up the heat by cultivating aspects like:
- Self-reliance
- Affection
- Honesty
- Vulnerability
- Reliability
- Confidence
- Asking for What You Want
- Boundaries
- Time Alone
- Positivity
- Listening
- and of course, as Aretha sang...Respect
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What are the things that make a romantic relationship Hotter Than Ever? Sure there's chemistry and physical attraction (that's a given!) but there are so many other factors that make for a healthy, sexy, open connection between two conscious adults. Erin shares her opinion on how to turn up the heat by cultivating aspects like:
- Self-reliance
- Affection
- Honesty
- Vulnerability
- Reliability
- Confidence
- Asking for What You Want
- Boundaries
- Time Alone
- Positivity
- Listening
- and of course, as Aretha sang...Respect
Want more Hotter Than Ever? Find us and sign up for our email list online at www.hotterthaneverpod.com
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Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChwbEXbAVqoNYd_g5ok7VPg
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100090728330453
Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode.
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