Hey, Boomer

Mark Twain said, "The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why."

Purpose is your natural way of being and your purpose may change over your lifetime. It is not static. When we leave our careers many of us lose our sense of identity and then we lose our reason to get up in the morning.

Anna Hall worked in senior living communities, and she saw how the residents that had a sense of purpose were more resilient, they were happier, had better mental health and motivation for each day. This sparked her research and the development of The Purpose Equation.

The secret ingredient that fuels your innate purpose is tapping into your sense of joy. Anna has an experience that she takes you through called JoyFuel. We talk about what I discovered when I went through this experience with her.

We also talked about the impact of understanding our individual purpose and joy, as well as understanding that of our partners or our co-workers improves relationships, increases patience and understanding.

Episode Takeaways:

1. Humans need a sense of meaning to thrive.
2. How do you like to help people? Digging into that can help you discover joy and purpose.
3. Everyone has a purpose inside. It is with you and accessible.
4. Purpose is not a role or a goal
5. Purpose helps improve health, wellness, outlook and mindset.

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Wendy Green is a Certified Life Coach, working with people going through the

sometimes uncomfortable life transition from full-time work to “what’s next.”

Find out more about Wendy’s 6-week “What’s Next Transition” Coaching workshop

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You can reach Anna Hall at [email protected]

Her website is thepurposeequation.com.

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We are living in the Age of Longevity and choosing a home in the second half of life requires planning and reflection.

Place matters is foundational to this planning. Aging well starts with a vision of what you want. You want to consider location as well as how place will enhance your sense of purpose, social connections, physical activity and financial well-being.

Ryan Frederick, my guest for this episode, is the author of Right Place, Right Time. He breaks down the importance of each of these components. He has an issue with the term, "aging in place." He prefers the term "living in community" and he explains what he means during our discussion.

Successful aging is not a solo sport. Include family, friends and a partner if you have one, in the discussion.

In the episode we talk about alternative housing options, such as intergenerational living, co-housing, co-living and home sharing.

Finally, we talked about the importance of investigating health care living options, should they become necessary, before they become necessary. Moving can be disruptive and having to move under dire circumstances only makes it more difficult. Being prepared, having done your homework, may alleviate some of the stress.

Episode Takeaways:

1. Give place the respect it deserves

2. Place matters, choose wisely

3. Seek counsel with family and friends.

4. Create opportunities for self-reflections aournd purpose, social connection, physical well-being and financial well-being

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Introduction:

In this episode of Hey, Boomer!, host Wendy Green dives into the sensitive topic of family estrangement and explores the hidden wounds that can tear families apart. With the help of esteemed guest Dr. Joshua Coleman, author of "Rules of Estrangement," they discuss the rise of estrangement, changes in family dynamics, and the possibility of healing broken relationships. This episode offers support and guidance for those experiencing estrangement or those seeking to understand and empathize with loved ones going through this difficult situation.

Guest Bio:

Dr. Joshua Coleman is a renowned psychologist and leading expert on family estrangement. He is the author of several books, including "Rules of Estrangement: Why Adult Children Cut Ties & How to Heal the Conflict," which has resonated with many estranged parents seeking guidance and understanding. Dr. Coleman's research and therapeutic work address the deep emotional impact of estrangement on families and offer insights into navigating the path toward reconciliation.

Key Takeaways:

1. Estrangement is a silent hurt: Estrangement within families often goes unspoken, causing pain and isolation for those experiencing it. This episode shines a light on this issue and provides a safe space to discuss and heal from family estrangement.

2. The importance of empathy and understanding: Dr. Coleman emphasizes the significance of empathy and understanding when working to repair estranged relationships. Taking responsibility for past mistakes and truly listening to the concerns and feelings of the estranged family member plays a crucial role in the healing process.

3. The evolving dynamics of family: The societal and cultural shifts in recent generations have led to new expectations within parent-child relationships. Understanding the changes in dynamics and the desire for personal fulfillment and mental health is essential in bridging the gap between generations.

4. The challenge for estranged parents: Estranged parents may struggle with feelings of defensiveness and questioning their parenting abilities when accused of emotional abuse or neglect. Dr. Coleman provides insights on how to approach these accusations with empathy and initiate meaningful conversations.

5. Respect boundaries and let the line go cold, if needed: Respecting boundaries and giving space to the estranged family member is crucial in the healing process. The episode discusses the concept of "letting the line go cold" as a strategy to prompt reflection and respect while navigating attempts at reconciliation.

Join Wendy Green and Dr. Joshua Coleman as they explore the complexities of family estrangement and provide valuable insights and support for those seeking healing in their own strained relationships.

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Remember when we were told to start saving early and to pay ourselves first? Well, those days are past. Now we have what we have and we have to figure out to make the best financial decisions about our future based on what we have today.

In my discussion with Quintin Pile, CFP, we covered a lot of territory that someone preparing for another 20-30 years of life after full time work, needs to think about. We talked about cash flow, various insurance considerations, home ownership, debt, and inflation mitigation.

Everyone's situation is going to be unique and talking with an expert is advised. This episode will give you a good starting point to think about your goals and the questions you want to ask when interviewing financial planners.

Episode Takeaways:

1. Implications of taking social security at full retirement age or delaying it.

2. How to think about mortgage debt when interest rates are so low.

3. Be clear about your goals when you meet with a financial planner.

4. Interview multiple planners on your retirement planning journey,

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Hans Petersen grew up in Copenhagen, Denmark where he studied architechure at the Royal Danish Academy or Art. Upon graduation he began working at a graphic design studio in Copenhagen and then followed a love interest to New York. Once in NY, Hans found work at a printing company and that is where he first learned about color. Eventually, he started his own graphics design firm in Manhattan and worked in it for 10 years.

He followed his wife to Charoltte, NC and started over. After many "cold" reach outs, Hans secured the International Home Furnishing Center as a client and produced material for them for 15 years. Then in 2005, they became part of a bigger organization and Hans was out of work.

What was next? His wife suggested he paint, something he loved doing as a child. In this episode he explains how he learned about the art business and has grown into a professional artist.

Episode Takeaways:

1. Being a professional artist takes committment to paint every day.

2. The inspiration comes, but it is not initially what gets him painting.

3. They learned while doing tent shows, researching galleries and talking to gallery owners.

4. When you are trying to determine "what's next" think back to your childhood. What did you love doing then?

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