Beyond Asian: Stories of the Third Culture

Welcome back for Season 2!
After a long pandemic-induced break, we're back today with Hansol Seung, a Korean-German musician, to hear how he transformed an aggression on the street into a punkrock song.
The single tells the story of anti-Asian racism from the perspective of Hansol (he/him), who is of Korean descent. SHORELINE teamed up with Asian-American Singer-Songwriter KOJI (they/them) to work on the song.
KOJI was born in Peixtin (Paxton) (or Harrisburg) PA and just recently came back from a long hiatus, releasing their most recent single “To Carry (On and On)”- a song about their experience as a member of the Asian diaspora, facing white supremacy and the movements to eradicate the conditions that create violence.
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SHOWNOTES
Konichiwa Lyrics:
Start another conversation about the place where I was born
(but where are you really from?)
I don’t really understand why you want to be in control
Tell another joke that I’ve heard about a thousand times before
your fingers stretch your eyes to mock mine
you think like a dinosaur
I don’t know how your head’s so old but you’re still young
not in a good way, it’s all wrong
your excuse and words mean nothing
your ideas were broken by the test of time
shout “konichiwa” and I swear one more time
and I will lose my shit and fuck you up
Okay I know, you’ve been asking out of interest
low expectations, you compliment my language
maybe at some point you should reflect on your choice
to fetishize my skin
(you speak so well)
you’re just a clone of an older species
you will go on and praise tradition
I don’t know how your head’s so old but you’re still young
not in a good way, it’s all wrong
your excuse and words mean nothing
your ideas were broken by the test of time
shout “konichiwa” and I swear one more time
and I will lose my shit and fuck you up
stray for more, stray for love
I know you’re smart at heart
shed the skin, it’s embarrassing
decenter, dismantle, abolish
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SHORELINE’s website: shorelineband.com
Instagrams: Band: @shoreline_band
Hansol: @meatfreeyouth
KOJI: @kojisaysaloha
Label Shoreline: @end_hits_records
Label KOJI: @getbetterrecords
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Dear Listeners, this is a bonus episode for all of you on a topic close to my heart: Psychedelics.
I was invited by Frank and Cynic to guest on their podcast, No Stone Unturned, to talk about my experiences with psychedelics, the differences between the classical psychedelics: LSD, Psilocybin Mushrooms, and Ayahuasca, how to prepare for a psychedelic journey, whether psychedelics are for everyone, and much more!
Enjoy this fun bonus episode, and stay tuned for the next regular episode on Beyond Asian!

In this week's episode, we dive into the complex process of healing and improving relationships with parents, particularly in Asian cultures. Our new Ask Me Anything segment features psychoanalyst Dr. Salman Akhtar's article on "A Third Individuation, Immigration, Identity, and the Psychoanalytic Process," providing a resource for third culture individuals to understand themselves better.
Read "A Third Individuation", by Dr. Salman Akhtar here: https://immaterial.sfai.edu/features/here-and-yet/documents/A-THIRD-INDIVIDUATION-IMMIGRATIONidentity-and-the-psychoanalitical-process.pdf
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In today's episode featuring Johnson Hsieh, we explore the concept of third individuation and the importance of unblocking love, tearing down internal barriers that prevent true connection. We delve into the challenges of evolving relationships with parents, examining our own perceptions and biases, and setting boundaries. We emphasize the importance of communication, understanding, and forgiveness in relationships, highlighted by our personal experiences and those of our guests. Join us as we explore the ongoing effort of trying to improve relationships by being vulnerable, expressing oneself, and actively listening.
Don't forget to support us by becoming a patron on patreon.com/beyondasian. Tune in now to Beyond Asian: Stories of the Third Culture, where we believe that understanding and empathy towards others are vital to building meaningful relationships with our Asian parents.
Topics
- A Third individuation in immigrants
- Kanye West's "everything is the same"
- Understanding and empathy towards parents
- Unblocking love to improve relationships
- Navigating cultural differences and setting boundaries
- Understanding interrupting in communication
- Therapy and exploring emotions
- Importance of open communication
- Accepting challenges in infinite game
- Finding progress and hope in small shifts
- Impact of self-reflection and self-acceptance
Notable Quotes
"Immigration from one country to another is a complex and multifaceted psychosocial process with significant and lasting effects on an individual's identity."
"The idea that the individuation process may never quite stop happening for third culture people invites a continuous process of creativity and of reinvention."
"Grief is love with nowhere to go. It's love that has had nowhere to go for decades, and now it can finally flow."
Keywords

1. Immigration process 2. Dr. Salman Akhtar 3. Psychoanalytic process 4. Third individuation 5. Psychosocial development theory 6. Third culture individuals 7. Identity 8. Parental backstory 9. Protection 10. Relationship with parents.

Episode Outline
Introduction and explanation of Ask Me Anything segment [00:00:01]
Question from patron William on suggested reading materials for third culture individuals [00:00:28]
Johnson's mom's backstory and early life struggles [00:10:34]
Johnson's mom's experiences as a child [00:11:37]
Johnson''s approach to maintaining a relationship with his parents despite interruptions [00:29:41]
Johnson and his mom's evolving relationship and her positive affirmations towards him [00:36:04]
Johnson's pivotal moment with his therapist and impact on his relationship with his mom [00:40:35]
Johnson's infrequent interrupted conversations with his mom and documenting them on Twitter. [00:43:32]

What are Asians doing to find cultural fit in the online dating world?
In Episode 7, I’m speaking with Hanmin Yang, the CEO of Alike - a video-based dating platform designed with Asians of all backgrounds in mind. Hanmin describes his long journey of self-understanding and healing from a devastating divorce in the creation of this platform, and how he hopes to help Asians find meaningful connections with each other.
Sign up to be a beta tester of Alike: www.alike.dating
Instagram: @alike.dating
Transcript of this episode on www.beyondasian.com