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b Cause Work Doesn't Have to Suck - 62: Stop Judging How People Judge You

62: Stop Judging How People Judge You

06/30/20 • 87 min

b Cause Work Doesn't Have to Suck
You're running on the corporate treadmill. It keeps going faster and faster. It keeps getting tougher and tougher. What can you possibly do to not go flying off that treadmill, only to faceplant into the mirror on the wall?! Sometimes you have to look up from all the running you're doing and look straight into that mirror. If you can see the craziness and the beauty that is your authentic self, that's where change starts. First within. Then outside. This week's episode gets deeper and more raw than Nicole or Erin expected. Nicole starts by talking about the "Zoom-bomb" she got from her boss at 8:01 on a Monday morning to let her know of yet another big shift at work - a new CEO. Erin takes some time to coach Nicole, asking her to close her eyes and describe two paths she can go down as she heads into this change. They discuss Nicole's fear of being judged, and how the overcompensation for those fears and insecurities may just be the fuel to the fires she feels time and time again. Erin reflects on moments in her career where she faced similar challenges to Nicole, and they discuss the difference in attitudes, approaches, and outcomes. Finally, Erin asks Nicole to visualize a different path, where she finds self-love and has full control of her success in both her personal and professional life. If you like jammin' with us on the podcast, b sure to join us for more fun and inspiration! Here are some options... Check out the b BRILLIANT career coaching program @ b Cause Podcast Facebook group @ We share even more crazy stuff here (you probably thought that was impossible). Take our simple, fun and insightful "What Kind of Dog Are You At Work?" by going to We have so much fun stuff going on...we wouldn't want you to miss out - join the authenticity movement and our community by adding your email just about anywhere @ Check out our blog for more of our no-BS career advice @ We have fun and inspiring t-shirts @ DISCLAIMER: This episode is not explicit, though contains mild swearing that may be unsuitable for younger audiences. Tweetable Comments: "It was a typical Sunday night: half panic attack, half wanna drink a bottle of tequila and slide into Monday morning. I was feeling pretty good." "You're always half-dressed." "It feels like a loss of control, a complete breakdown in communication." "They're asking for an ocean when what they need is a grain of sand." "If I'm a CEO coming in, I want to have a dialogue. I want to be asked questions." "If you met an asshole in the morning, you met an asshole. If you meet assholes all day, you're the asshole." "That is how I came into this company, and that is how I had success. But I have been beaten down by the system, maybe it's time to be un-beaten down." "The goal was to connect. I defined how we would connect. And I really thought about him first." "Being a survivor is not mutually exclusive to being a victim." "None of this can systemically change until you decide to love yourself." "If you ask good questions - and you ask for feedback you're willing to accept - someone might come back to you and ask the same." "Nothing is wrong, or everything is wrong. That's just who I am."
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You're running on the corporate treadmill. It keeps going faster and faster. It keeps getting tougher and tougher. What can you possibly do to not go flying off that treadmill, only to faceplant into the mirror on the wall?! Sometimes you have to look up from all the running you're doing and look straight into that mirror. If you can see the craziness and the beauty that is your authentic self, that's where change starts. First within. Then outside. This week's episode gets deeper and more raw than Nicole or Erin expected. Nicole starts by talking about the "Zoom-bomb" she got from her boss at 8:01 on a Monday morning to let her know of yet another big shift at work - a new CEO. Erin takes some time to coach Nicole, asking her to close her eyes and describe two paths she can go down as she heads into this change. They discuss Nicole's fear of being judged, and how the overcompensation for those fears and insecurities may just be the fuel to the fires she feels time and time again. Erin reflects on moments in her career where she faced similar challenges to Nicole, and they discuss the difference in attitudes, approaches, and outcomes. Finally, Erin asks Nicole to visualize a different path, where she finds self-love and has full control of her success in both her personal and professional life. If you like jammin' with us on the podcast, b sure to join us for more fun and inspiration! Here are some options... Check out the b BRILLIANT career coaching program @ b Cause Podcast Facebook group @ We share even more crazy stuff here (you probably thought that was impossible). Take our simple, fun and insightful "What Kind of Dog Are You At Work?" by going to We have so much fun stuff going on...we wouldn't want you to miss out - join the authenticity movement and our community by adding your email just about anywhere @ Check out our blog for more of our no-BS career advice @ We have fun and inspiring t-shirts @ DISCLAIMER: This episode is not explicit, though contains mild swearing that may be unsuitable for younger audiences. Tweetable Comments: "It was a typical Sunday night: half panic attack, half wanna drink a bottle of tequila and slide into Monday morning. I was feeling pretty good." "You're always half-dressed." "It feels like a loss of control, a complete breakdown in communication." "They're asking for an ocean when what they need is a grain of sand." "If I'm a CEO coming in, I want to have a dialogue. I want to be asked questions." "If you met an asshole in the morning, you met an asshole. If you meet assholes all day, you're the asshole." "That is how I came into this company, and that is how I had success. But I have been beaten down by the system, maybe it's time to be un-beaten down." "The goal was to connect. I defined how we would connect. And I really thought about him first." "Being a survivor is not mutually exclusive to being a victim." "None of this can systemically change until you decide to love yourself." "If you ask good questions - and you ask for feedback you're willing to accept - someone might come back to you and ask the same." "Nothing is wrong, or everything is wrong. That's just who I am."

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Life often whispers at you. If you don't listen, it gets louder and louder. But what if you not only listened, but used it as the thing that powered you to rise to new heights? This week, Erin interviews Rafat Fields, Founder of Powered to Rise. Rafat is a woman small in stature but gigantic in spirit. They discuss everything from her career ups and downs to her son's autism to her journey from obesity to competitive USA weightlifting. Rafat also helps you to see that your personal brand is the key to unlocking success for you and your company. Rafat tells us that she has an addiction to being in control, something that's likely relatable to a lot of us. She talks about a time in her life where she felt a lack of talent or ability, of always trying to live up to standards expected of her (or of herself), and how it had massive negative effects on her mindset and quality of life at work. So, Erin asks her to discuss why she started feeling this way. She discusses her son's autism, how that affected decisions at the time involving work and where to settle. She moves on to discuss her weight, and her journey from being obese to becoming a competitive athlete. They also talk about the power that your own values and personal brand can have on your success within your own company, whether you're the CEO, a sales person, or just about anyone in the company. Finally, Erin and Rafat discuss how she is feeling, as a black woman living in America, in light of recent events. "Exhausted", Rafat replies. Rafat is an incredibly humble and inspiring soul. This is not an episode you want to miss! Follow Rafat @ Facebook: Linkedin: If you like jammin' with us on the podcast, b sure to join us for more fun and inspiration! Here are some options... Check out the b BRILLIANT career coaching program @ b Cause Podcast Facebook group @ We share even more crazy stuff here (you probably thought that was impossible). Take our simple, fun and insightful "What Kind of Dog Are You At Work?" by going to We have so much fun stuff going on...we wouldn't want you to miss out - join the authenticity movement and our community by adding your email just about anywhere @ Check out our blog for more of our no-BS career advice @ We have fun and inspiring t-shirts @ DISCLAIMER: This episode is not explicit, though contains mild swearing that may be unsuitable for younger audiences. Tweetable Comments: "I think what shaped me most in my youth was being an only child." "You had an addiction to being in control." "There's this conditioning and training, that you'll have to work twice as hard, to get half as far." "There was a point where I couldn't think of a single thing I was good at." "Weightlifting in general, I do five or six times a week. And for me it's about breathing, the music I play. Giving myself time to relieve tension." "The soundtrack to my life is 50% Beyoncé, 50% gospel music." "It's not just the values of the organization, it's the values of the leader." " if you want people to connect with your company, tell a story." "Systemic racism is there, but we can't live that emotion every day and still function, so we compartmentalize, we keep moving forward." "I do not see myself as an expert at solving the problem, but I've always been good at building relationships and connecting people." "I think a lot of people see silence as complicit behavior."

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We've all taken those personality tests. Hell, we even talk about them on this podcast. But can these tests do more harm than good? Is your personality your authentic self? Or rather, is it that your personality (and your authenticity) can and SHOULD continually change? Erin sits down with Dr Benjamin Hardy, an organizational psychologist, to discuss everything from enneagrams, to trauma, to how envisioning your future self is critical to your growth. From humble beginnings and an unfortunate childhood situation, Ben is an organizational psychologist and bestselling author of Willpower Doesn't Work. His blogs have been read by over 100 million people and are featured on Forbes, Fortune, CNBC, Cheddar, Big Think, and many others. He is a regular contributor to Inc and Psychology Today and from 2015-2018, he was the #1 writer, in the world, on medium.com. He and his wife Lauren adopted three children through the foster system in February 2018 and, one month later, Lauren became pregnant with twins, who were born in December of 2018. They live on Orlando. Ben has gone on to become a best-selling author of one highly successful book, and working on two more, forged a career in organizational psychology, and started a family. Erin asks Ben what started him on the road to Organizational Psychology and they dive deep into the pitfalls of personality tests, such as enneagrams and Myers Briggs. Ben discusses the difference between identity and personality, and how they can shape, or be shaped, by behavior. He moves on to discuss how people view themselves, and how you can create a picture of your future self: how you want your future self to be, to make sure you don't become stuck in who you think you are now. You can find more information about Ben, his book, and his work here: Or you can buy his latest book, Personality Isn't Permanent here: If you like jammin' with us on the podcast, b sure to join us for more fun and inspiration! Here are some options... Check out the b BRILLIANT career coaching program @ b Cause Podcast Facebook group @ We even sare more crazy stuff here (you probably thought that was impossible). Take our simple, fun and insightful "What Kind of Dog Are You At Work?" by going to We have so much fun stuff going on...we wouldn't want you to miss out - join the authenticity movement and our community by adding your email just about anywhere @ Check out our blog for more of our no-BS career advice @ We have fun and inspiring t-shirts @ DISCLAIMER: This episode is not explicit, though contains mild swearing that may be unsustainable for younger audiences. Tweetable Comments: "You are a positive deviant in how you challenge the norm." "My big problem with these tests is that they overemphasize a person's personality." "Your identity shapes your behavior. And over time, your behavior becomes your personality." "You might notice everything that fits your label, but you won't notice all the other things that don't fit your identity." "Research shows that your personality will change over time, whether you do anything about it or not." "You can always develop, but if you stick yourself in a category then you might not even try it." "Last week could have become a trauma if I'd been caught up in it. But I decided not to be defined by it." "Trauma, if unresolved, creates a fixed mindset." "You see yourself a certain way, but it's not objective. IT's not fact." "You're as sick as your secrets." "I have so many roles, and if I was the same person in each of those roles it wouldn't work." "Nothing good happens when you do a bonfire with old high school friends."

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