A Therapist Walks Into a Bar

If you’ve been feeling anxious, overwhelmed, shut down, angry, hurt, or scared since the new administration took over, you’re not alone. We’re dedicating this episode to sifting through some of what this political chaos and noise stirs in us and how we can show up and fight the good fight while practicing self-care so we don’t have to escape into the Alaskan wilderness. As our guest Kip Williams says, “you can’t have healthy movements without healthy people.” Featured Guest Kip Williams is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in San Francisco where he specializes in treating sexual minority men with depression and anxiety as well as a number of other issues. Before becoming a therapist, Kip was a dedicated activist for LGBTQ rights and co-directed the 2009 Equality March on Washington. www.kipwilliamspsychotherapy.com Credits Written & Produced by: Lily Sloane Jessica Brown Theme Song by: Topher M. Lewis Additional Music & Sound Design by: Lily Sloane Special Thanks to Sarah Henley, Jesse Rhodes, Eric Welsh, Abby Volk, and Stacey McGuirl for your contributions. Thank you to the strangers at the bar for talking to us. Thank you to The Woods Cerveceria for letting us hang out for a bit.

There’s this cliche, that all therapists want to do is make you talk about the past. Even though I often reassure new clients that I won’t make them talk about anything they don’t want to, it’s not untrue - a lot of us do want to know about your past. Because the past is never actually in the past and the present and the future are intricately tied to it. But like any historical research, piecing our own pasts together is both vital to self-understanding and fraught. And our understanding of history changes with who we are in the present. / Credits / Producer: Lily Sloane (www.lilymakessound.com) Story Editor: Emily Shaw (www.emilyshawcreates.com) Original Music & Sound Design: Lily Sloane Additional Music: "Colocate" by Poddington Bear and the original theme to The Jedediaries by Marshall York Find The Jedediaries at www.thejedediaries.com or wherever you listen to podcasts. Thank you Josey Baker, Torrey Paquette, and Ada and Linden for lending your voices to this story and Mat Stevens for helping me interview Jed. Clips from Mortified were recorded at the New Parish in Oakland, California March 10, 2018. I highly recommend the Mortified TV series on Netflix, the podcast, and live shows. www.getmortified.com Become a patron of the show at www.patreon.com/atherapistwalksintoabar.

Communities of gay men and the larger LGBTQ communities continue to face challenges from trauma to addiction, to ongoing discrimination. But that's not the full picture. In this episode we explore the challenges while also talking about the incredible strengths and resilience of gay men. We headed to a few bars in the Castro during Pride Week and asked some of the men we met to tell us their stories about facing – and overcoming – challenges. The Expert Jamie Moran is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over thirty years experience in mental health and health care settings, focusing on gay men dealing with depression, grief and loss, HIV/AIDS, family, homophobia, intimacy and relationship issues. He has extensive training and experience facilitating groups in varied settings encompassing diverse groups of people. Jamie provides psychotherapy for individual adults and couples. He is also a certified group psychotherapist, currently leading six groups in the bay area out of offices in San Francisco and Menlo Park. www.jamiemoran.com Credits Written & Produced by: Lily Sloane + Kip Williams Theme Song: "Maruumba" by Topher M. Lewis Additional Music + Sound Design by: Lily Sloane Philadelphia Pride News Clips: More Color More Pride Pride Flag, Drag Race Finale, Gay Men's Golden Girls | Gay Weekly Roundtable Philly Unveils New Pride Flag (CBS Philadelphia) Gay Rainbows Can Have Black & Brown Stripes - The New LGBT Pride Flag | David Levitz Episode Image: "Together" by John St. John (used under creative commons) Special Thanks to the strangers at the bar for talking to us as well as Twin Peaks Tavern and The Mix for letting us hang out. Visit atherapistwalksintoabar.com for links and more information.

When performing is a normal part of all our lives, on stage or off, what does it mean to be authentic? What is a “true self”? I’m hoping an opera singing drag performing therapist, some strangers in a bar, and a dead psychoanalyst can help me figure it out. This episode features San Francisco drag performing artist, Dusty Porn (aka San Francisco psychotherapist Paul Ziller). To watch Dusty's performance in the Miss California Gold Pageant this year, follow this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xTzs5sbZ5nw&feature=youtu.be Credits Producer: Lily Sloane Story Editor: Emily Shaw Music & Sound Design: Lily Sloane Thank you to The Little Shamrock, one of San Francisco's oldest bars, and the strangers there who opened up to me. "Firenze Church Choir" by mmiron used under creative commons. The file length was altered and effects were added. Become a patron of the show and collect some sweet rewards! Visit patreon.com/atherapistwalksintoabar

For this Radical Short, we time travel all the way back to February, when my colleague Lauren Selfridge, host and creator of the podcast This Is Not What I Ordered, joined me in the studio and we answered a listener question about why feeling is important - even if it does hurt sometimes. Produced by Lily Sloane Find This Is Not What I Ordered at www.thisisnotwhatiordered.com and all the podcast listening places. Radical Advice is live Tuesdays from 10am-noon pacific time on www.BFF.fm and you can find past broadcasts archived on the website or by subscribing to radical advice in your favorite podcast listening place. If you want your life questions answered on Radical Advice, please visit radicaladviceshow.com. You can submit your question anonymously right there on the site. Or you can record a voice memo and email it to me at [email protected]. Become a patron of the show by visiting www.patreon.com/atherapistwalksintoabar Find the show on Twitter @atwiabpod; Radical Advice @radical_advice; and Lily @lilyrosesloane